To dress up or not to dress up?
I am facing a bit of a problem at work right now, style-wise.
Not only did my pants not fit (it was obscene), they are also no longer a comfortable rise (mid, when I now need/want high), my skirts all fit kind of awkwardly now, I feel like my tops are not quite right for the new, looser, baggier pants I bought, and to top it all off, my work environment is more casual than business.
Like, CASUAL with all-caps lettering!
“What happened!?“, I shriek internally..
Let’s start with the fit issues.
PERSONAL COMFORT LEVEL CHANGED
So now that I only really feel good in high-rise pants, I realize a little late that all my work pants are mid-rise. Welp, there goes all of my staples out of the window.
I really just don’t feel comfortable wearing mid-rise. It creates a muffin top where THERE ISN’T one, and I will say this for any woman as much as for myself:
If you see muffin tops, and you feel like it isn’t comfortable, it means you either need to go up a size, or go up in the rise.
(That should be put on a metal sign and hung in every dressing room.)
My personal comfort level has changed. I used to be okay with mid-rise pants, maybe a little muffin toppage hapening here and there, but now it is something I am acutely conscious of, this little belly hanging out over the waistband, jiggling hello when it should be tucked underneath and incognito.
I am not fat. I know this. I am just uncomfortable with certain cuts now (a sleeve that grips my arms and turns them into sausage links is also out.)
HAD TAILORED EVERYTHING TO AN INCH
In hindsight, not such a great idea. I should have left an inch or so for give, but I basically had it all to fit my (then) raw vegan body that was at 110 lbs, and now I am around 123 lbs (based on what my doctor told me), with a little extra poundage in new places where it previously stayed away from (hips, butt, thighs).
I don’t hate this new body, I just hate that I can’t fit back into my pretty things.
For the future — do not tailor everything to an inch! 😛
PUT ON SEDENTARY PASTRY POUNDS
… IN ALL THE RIGHT (WRONG?) PLACES!
I now have a little more poundage around my butt and my hips. I have wanted this for years so that my butt isn’t so flat and skinny, but now that I have it, my tailored pieces (see above) don’t fit right.
It’s not a bad problem, but I can 100% pinpoint to it being now about 3 – 5 pounds put on in the past year, making my clothes hang all wrong.
So what to do?
Do I lose the little bit of poundage and fit back into my gorgeous tailored pieces? I am leaning towards this option because let’s face it, I LOVE what I have in my closet. I have spent years curating each piece and it’s all stuff I enjoy wearing.
Or do I embrace this new, curvy-to-me shape and get a new wardrobe, spend time, and spend MORE $$$ (I am actually crying at this option, oh my how the times have changed)…!?!?
OH BUT WAIT… MY OFFICE IS SUPER CASUAL
I am talking people in sandals with t-shirts, casual. I had to downgrade from wearing my beloved heels which make me feel tall, confident and like an Amazon, to wearing flats.
Cute flats, but FLATS. I feel so short, especially amongst a sea of men.
I also have only silk blouses and fancy attire. That’s just what I like to wear to work. Unfortunately, this REALLY stands out in a sea of men, all dress haphazardly and casually.
I have taken my cue from the managers however, and they’re all in button-up shirts, and trousers, no jackets or ties. This screams business casual to me, so therefore I shall dress accordingly.
The only other woman in the office is a Vice-President who wears heels and suits to work no matter what. I can’t pretend I’m on her level.
As a result, I’m sort of scrambling to find outfits each day that are still outfits I deem work appropriate but are also not too formal or stylish for an IT department that thinks wearing a sweater is formal attire.
I’m looking at my wardrobe each day and basically wearing the same items week after week with different jewellery.
The good news is that I’m creating new outfits I never would have worn before and my preference has since geared towards wearing less feminine, girly colours and prints and sticking to plain neutrals with stripes. I don’t feel like I have the liberty to wear bright prints or colours to work as I would REALLY stand out.
I have also been shy wearing brighter prints and colours because being pretty much the only woman there, you can imagine that this really stands out in a kaleidoscope of brown, black, blue and grey.
Deep rich purples?
All major favourites, but all very bright colours that spotlight who I am at any given moment.
I’m also wearing more dresses and skirts but in a casual manner and trying to be cognizant of how much leg or chest I might be flashing (not that any of what I own is very short or low cut to begin with).
I’ve found wearing a tank top or a bandeau to ensure that if my top gapes open, I’m not flashing anyone has been a real sanity saver and I’m pleased I thought ahead and bought a few of those in various colours to cover up without having to wear another shirt underneath.
Aside from that, I can’t think of anything else I can do, taking into account my jewellery has to be low key as well, as I got some comments about a huge cocktail ring I wore the other day.
Frustrating but also a nice change of pace I must say.
I only I wish there were more women, and more MY AGE in the office!
WHY ARE PEOPLE SO DRESSED DOWN?
*sigh* Blame it on the democracy of office wear, but people are just super dressed down these days. I can’t even believe that open-toed sandals are appropriate in the office.
I still find it very weird to show your toes and yet that is all I see all day long from men in flip flops.
Anyway, that’s my dilemma right now.