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The best and worst things about being a parent

The best things are:

When your baby starts doing things like sitting up for the first time, crawling, and walking.

When you hear his first giggle and see his first smile

When you have these MOMENTS. I cannot describe them, but when everything just goes well, and he is sitting in your lap or cuddling with you, quietly playing with your necklace before you go to work, or when you are reading to him and he is reading back to you or explaining the story in advance, or just when you’re lying down and he lies down beside you, faces you, and then gives you a big smile and a giggle because he is so incredibly happy

When your child says: Mommy (very clearly!), or unprompted “I love you“, and your heart melts.

When your child connects the dots on love, like when Little Bun saw the word “Love” and turned to me, gave me a huge hug and kiss, patted my shoulder and said: “This is love

(Little Bun spelled out the above on his own but ran out of DDY to finish “Daddy” and asked to “go shopping to buy more Daddy”)

When your kid cries for you, says “WANT MOMMY” and comes to you for everything (this apparently won’t last)

When your partner tells you that the baby even at 7 months, would crawl to the door around the same time every day (4 p.m.-ish), check to see if Mommy was coming home, and then come back to him. As he got older, he would patiently wait at the window looking out for my car coming around the curve


When you get in the door and your kid just drops everything and RUNS to you

When other parents commiserate with you

When you remember being pregnant with him, and you fondly look back at old videos and photos and then compare to the little boy he has become

When you go to throw out the garbage (just across the hall) and your son runs to you saying: Want to go with Mommy! because he just wants to be with you all the time

The worst things are:

When you get mommy shamed by your partner, your family, your in-laws, your friends…

When you’re told what to do by other parents who know it all and are better in every which way

When your kid cries for you, says “WANT MOMMY” and comes to you for everything (this apparently won’t last)

When you don’t get enough sleep because he woke up 8 times last night, kicked you in the face and you have a huge presentation with a bruise on your cheek now

When you just want to have alone time to do basic things like shower. I spend a lot of time trying to hide in the bathroom but no place is off limits as long as Mommy is there. He is literally my baby shadow / bodyguard

Or you just want to be left alone because you’re tired or sick but have to suck it up. You just want to crawl into bed, read a book or close your eyes and not have anyone scream for or at you, to rest and sleep.

When your kid is in “a mood” or has a major temper tantrum and you as the adult, intellectually KNOW that he cannot control his emotions right now but you have to try and be calm, patient, the bigger person, the adult, and to try not to yell at him because he doesn’t know any better.

When you yell at your child and then realize you’re a monster but also know that there was no other way at that point to get them to stop before you were driven off the sanity cliff

When you read all of these parenting books about how you are the model for his future spouse, and what you say and do now affects how he grows up mentally and how he acts as an adult towards others, and the responsibility you have to make sure you don’t EFF HIM UP is real

When other parents brag about their perfect angels. Every kid has their bad and good points. Mine likes to eat, is pretty sweet and well-behaved, and is clever and curious. His bad points are that he doesn’t sleep soundly, he is very fixed in his ways and if you deviate just one little iota, it becomes a huge deal, and he only wants me 100% of the time if I am around.

When you just want to eat a meal in peace and not have someone sing the alphabet at the top of their lungs or scream or just make noise and jump around which causes your partner to lose it, and then you in turn to have to try and calm both of them down because now your son is crying from being yelled at.

That’s it. The best and worst I can think of.


The highs are the highest I’ve ever had, the lows are also the lowest I’ve ever had.

Children bring out the best and worst in you and reveal what you love and hate about yourself.


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Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

I got out of $60,000 of debt in 18 months using TheBudgetingTool.com. Since then, I have worked 50% of my career (taking 1-2 year breaks), and quadrupled my income within 2 years of graduating, going from $65K to $260K (savings rate = 85%). I could retire today if I wanted, but love my work-life balance as a freelancing consultant in STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, Math). I also post daily on Instagram @saverspender.

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6 Comments

  1. her every cent counts

    Great post. I’m 7 weeks pregnant with our first, and this post definitely is good prep for having a kid. I know it’s going to be very difficult – but I can’t wait for all of those wonderful moments you mention as well. Love the part about your kid kicking you in the face — I could def see that happening to me before an important presentation too.

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      Congratulations!!!! It is going to be a heck of a ride. Enjoy it while you are still “single” and without a mini shadow.

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  2. Jamie

    My little guy (almost 3), is in a stage where he prefers Daddy. Daddy is more fun than Mommy, apparently. I find some days I can be really patient and understanding with him and some days I get very frustrated and yell. It seems like its more what kind of day I’m having (or I just run out of patience). But, I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Seeing him smile and giggle and say Hi Mommy! melts my heart and more than makes up for the crazy times.

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      Absolutely. That is 100% why I love having a kid. Mine prefers me because I am also WAY more fun than Daddy.. and I read, sing, do things… I’m doing it all.

      At any rate, I hear you on being frustrated. I lose it often.

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  3. Life we learn

    Parenting is definitely challenging, it’s the hardest thing I’ve experienced and it’s so underrated. However it is definitely rewarding too. Nothing can replace that unconditional love that they have for you and you for them <3

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      We have this unconditional love that I can’t even begin to explain to anyone else.

      Reply

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