Ask Sherry: Do you ever take Little Bun out on outings?
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Do you ever take your son out to a museum, art gallery or to do anything that is enjoyable for him?
Just like in this post asking me why I don’t read more parenting books, this is hard to not take personally because you’re basically implying that I don’t do anything that is enjoyable for Little Bun.
Let’s be clear here if you read my Week of Money posts regularly — he ENJOYS doing math and reading and English. It is the thing he dreams about when he sleeps, mumbling out roman numerals and randomly saying things like: Mommy, CX is 110! …
NO ONE finds this normal, not even me.
I casually (hesitantly) mention it to other parents (of older and younger kids), to see if their kids are reacting similarly, and they are not. I remember little kids I have interacted with in the past, being nothing at all like this.
So — I am not forcing him to do math. I am not forcing him to do English. And I am not forcing him to do Science or learn about planets.
He is ASKING and even choosing out of all the 3 full book boxes that we have. his favourite books which are the Times Table Book and the Computers and Coding book. Out of all the books, I have to almost force him to take a storybook over these two favourites. He wants to constantly learn about anything extra – Binary numbers, Roman numerals, etc.
So yes, I do “things that are enjoyable for him”, pretty much every day and every night because these are the things he finds enjoyable — math and baby coding.
That said, I normally take him outside to the park or on outings more during the warmer months because it is far too cold and dangerous to have a child outside in winter when you aren’t sure what is going to happen. Plus ice everywhere, yellow snow.. ugh. I cannot.
Plus, it is cold AF and kids don’t understand the importance of frostbite and not freezing your bum off.
For things that are museums, and art galleries … I don’t even find those enjoyable as an adult. I know they have children’s sections for science and so on, and that’s on our list to visit during the summer as a family, but aside from that, you need to be a little older to appreciate those things and he is finally approaching that age.
I already tried bringing him to the Botanical Gardens, Biodome, etc, and it was a waste of time and money. In fact, it was frustrating because I was tired and he could not care less about any of it.
We’ll take it as it goes, but so far, the plan is maybe the Science museum this summer, but more likely, it is going to be parks and riding the metro.
Would you ever consider plastic surgery or rejuvenation esthetic [sic] treatments like: face lifting, mini lifting, laser treatments, Botox, etc.? When? Why or why not?
I have actually very much considered undereye filler recently because I really, really hate my undereye bags.
See, even if my skin tone reaches perfection and I have EVEN skin tone with no brown spots or bits, or acne… I will always have to wear concealer for these undereye bags.
They make me look and feel tired, and if I could just stop using concealer and really go no-makeup like I want to and just slap on sunscreen, it is impossible with these bags.
Then I read into it, and decided ultimately, that I cannot go under the knife or use any kind of actual surgery or rejuvenation treatments that are invasive.
Even a little pinprick is invasive to me. I cannot reconcile injecting things in my face quite yet.
I sort of have a fear of needles and things going INTO my face and body.
My sister-in-law does mini lifts and Botox, and she feels much better not having those wrinkles, and looking younger which makes her feel better and she is much happier, but I am not there yet.
Never say never though.
What I have tried in the past was things like LED light facials, and recently, I wanted to do IPL treatments (intense pulsed light) for aging and so on, but with the cost of it, and the uncertainty of my contract for this year, I am shelving it.
I wouldn’t say no though. I’d definitely splurge on LED light facials monthly if I think it did something.
Where I really do spend the money so far, is on retinol (it has made a huge difference in my skin tone, texture and aging so far), and I am thus far, happy with the results of these products that I don’t feel like I need anything stronger like injectables.
If I ever did anything, it would be probably undereye fillers, maybe laser eye surgery, and laser light facials for the most part.
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Keep on doing what you are doing. LB is obviously a gifted child. I taught gifted teens; when I read their autobiographies, I ran into so many things you would find familiar. When I spoke with their parents, they expressed early self-doubt in child-raising practices, but they learned to follow their instincts and their children. And he WILL find his people in the gifted programs with the trained gifted teachers. Jealous, ignorant, insecure, judgmental people love to make comparisons. Repeat:keep on doing what you are doing. Be sure to enroll him in any gifted program as early as the school provides it. He will thrive–not like the average kid–but in his special way that you and many others will love like crazy, I promise.
Gosh, do people actually read? I gasped at that first question. So rude, and also if they read your blog they’d know that he loves trains and buses and riding in them and that you have taken him lots!
Eh, so what if he’s not into what other kids are into? He isn’t hurting anyone or anything. There is plenty of time for him to be a ‘normal’ kid later. He’s learning so much now that he’ll have a super easy time of it in his classes later, and eventually he’ll probably be too ‘cool’ to show his curiosity when he gets more self conscious and realizes that he’s a little different from the average joe kid (but certainly not different from EVERY kid–there are lotsa smart ones out there for him to bond with!). No use stifling the drive to learn. He’s gonna do amazing things one day 🙂
I think the person who asked the question hasn’t been around many small kids. Most kids, including yours, find joy in things adults might consider everyday or mundane. There are a lot of kids who love trips to the grocery store, or riding the subway/train, or going to the post office or bank. Kids also love the pride in mastering a new task like tying their shoes, getting mail from the box, etc. Kids can enjoy themselves, experience wonder, and learn new things without going to a museum.