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Round Three: More baby observations from a new parent and mother


Buy a double electric pump.

It’s $300 but worth it. Full Disclosure: I got mine from a friend so I didn’t pay the price, but I’d buy one in a heartbeat after what I’ve gone through.

I tried to be cheap at the start and I bought a manual pump but then I realized that pumping for 30 minutes BY HAND on EACH breast is not a good idea, 7 times a day.

That’s an hour in total, and it would cramp my hands to boot.

Of course Baby Bun wasn’t feeding directly and that was why it was so much work for me to try and give him breastmilk, but even if you are breastfeeding directly you might want to express breastmilk to give to your baby so that you don’t have to physically be there for feedings.

Therefore… you will be using a pump, because manually expressing is worse than using a manual pump.


Buy the double electric pump from the get-go and you’ll thank me when you are pumping milk from both breasts at once and not wasting time in the process.

Also, if your baby can’t feed directly, or won’t but you still want to pump milk to give it to him like I am doing then you need to buy a manual pump JUST IN CASE the electric one dies or the power goes out.

I had 2-3 scares of the electricity going out or the pump not working with the batteries, and feeling my breasts grow hard and engorged that we went out and bought a manual pump JUST IN CASE.

You don’t want to end up having to go to the hospital as an emergency case because your breasts are very hard with pent up milk and you’ve contracted mastitis or something. Seriously.


I kiss his cheeks, his chubby little thighs, his belly, his head.. I’m ALWAYS kissing him because he’s so darn cute and he smiles when I do it.

Sometimes after a good round of 5 minutes on his cheeks (alternating), he twists away with a squeal, which I take to mean:

ENOUGH, MOMMY! Kissing time is over! No more for today!!!

You can’t imagine (before children) how much you will love having them.

I’ll be spending the rest of my life grabbing them, hugging and kissing them and telling them how much I love them.

…and I’m sure as a surly teenager they’ll also be totally, TOTALLY psyched with all of this Mommy affection in front of their friends.


He seems to want to skip the entire phase of crawling and has started practicing how to stand.

When I hold my hands out he puts his little hands in mine and lifts himself up with minimal support from me, and starts trying to take his first steps.

No crawling at all.

Went straight from sitting independently (after tripodding his hand for the first week, and then a week after, he sat without the help of his arm out like a tripod), to trying to pull himself up and stand.

Did I mention he’s only 6 months? O_o

The other day I caught him free standing (he lifted his hands off for a moment) for about a second and a half before landing on his bottom.

Update: He is still not crawling but he is standing and for longer periods of time.


I think 5 months is the cutest age. He’s a little more independent, he starts trying to learn stuff on his own and doesn’t need me quite as much as before (although he still needs me, it’s less clingy).

His face also clears up from all the dry skin and acne, he starts growing this super cute little belly and huge thighs (SO CUTE) and his cheeks become magnets for kisses.

Simply adorable.

5 months is my favourite turning point of a baby’s development so far. SO CUDDLY AND CUTE.

Update: Still cute. And intelligent. He’s starting to respond to his name when I call him, and he’s doing things that are surprisingly mature. He’s very alert and focused on things, he doesn’t stare blankly in the distance.


I don’t want him to grow up being so dependent that he constantly needs me there to play with him and entertain him.

So I’m trying my best not to spend 100% of my time playing with him and leaving him to crawl around on the bed and floor on his own under a watchful eye.

I just check to make sure he isn’t hurt or crawling towards (or into) something dangerous, and that’s that, and I swoop in to steal kisses and cuddles when he gets squealy.

I really want him to grow up independent and confident in being able to do things on his own .. plus I’m also watching Game of Thrones, so that’s a Mommy thing to keep my sanity.


As the primary caregiver, he is super attached to me and sensitive.

Near the end of the day around 5 p.m., he only wants me at night. My mother noticed this with the other children too — that they all want their main caregiver when it gets closer to bedtime, so that they feel secure.

He wants me to hold him, cuddle him, play with him.. and he squeals in protest / fear when he doesn’t see me nearby, even though Daddy is around.

He always, ALWAYS checks to see if I am still in the room. There is never a long period of time (15 minutes is a long time in Baby World) where he doesn’t check to see where I am at least once.

He swivels his head around, twists, looks up, smiles and checks to see where I am.. it’s both rewarding and making me a bit nervous for when I will have to go back to work.

Update: Now that I’m back at work and Daddy is full-time at home, it took a week to transition. He cried a lot, rubbernecked to look for me, Daddy had to learn how to decipher his squeals and cries… it was a bit of a rough start, but things are going a lot better now.

My partner feels way more comfortable taking him out in the car, stroller, taking care of him, feeding him, etc, than he did when I was the primary caregiver.

Now he smiles and looks for both of us (me more than my partner for now, though).

I really think Dads should spend time with their kids. Alone time. And give Mommy a lot of Mommy time.


Something I noticed is that he’ll be crying and I KNOW he wants to eat.

I can see him give me the hungry signs — drooling, eating his hand / arm, crying, squirming… and when I try to give him a bottle he won’t take it.

It’s REALLY frustrating.

Then I try again, and he won’t take it even with the nipple in his mouth. I have to shake the bottle in front of his face and sing: Milky milky! … before he gets distracted, calms down, and THEN takes the bottle.

Or sometimes I have to flip him on his belly, pat his butt to sleep for about 25 seconds while he cries and flails his arms and legs, and then pick him back up to feed him (then he’ll have his eyes closed somewhat, and take the bottle right away).

It’s a process. I don’t know what goes on in his head but … that’s what I’ve noticed happening almost every time it’s time to nurse to sleep.

(Yes I am nursing him to sleep and I dun care. It works and sometimes he falls right asleep, no crying required.)

When it’s time to nap, he rubs his eyes, refuses to play the bouncing game with me (where I bounce him on the bed), and turns his head back and forth really quickly from side to side. His eyes also get a little red and he doesn’t smile or giggle in response to me.

All these signs point to needing a nap.


His best sleep should be at night, and this is the case.

He has started sleeping in 9 hour stretches now, and only ONCE did he sleep entirely through the night from 7 p.m. to 6 a.m.

We’re almost reaching the point where he sleeps at 7 p.m. regularly, and wakes up at 4 a.m. for a quick feed, then goes back down until 6 a.m. for 2 more hours.

Soon, it’ll get longer and longer as his belly gets bigger and bigger to be able to hold more milk (he drinks 12 ounces within an hour and a half before bedtime).

So.. I don’t know if it’s just a Baby Bun specific thing, but I was told that the longer the baby sleeps during the day, the better he sleeps at night.


Yes, if he doesn’t sleep at all during the day and doesn’t get a GOOD 2-3 naps of about 45 – 50 minutes in, he is awful at night.

He wakes up every 3 hours, cries, fusses… doesn’t sleep well.

However, if he sleeps more than an hour and a half during the day, he is equally as bad during the night, and wants to wake up and play at 3 a.m. when I am exhausted and sleepy.

The sweet spot is to let him nap for 1.5 hours and no more. This is no big deal because he normally only naps for 30 – 45 minutes though, and no matter what I frickin’ do, he won’t sleep any longer.

I went onto an online forum to read up about baby sleep habits (yes.. I’m a super lame Mommy now), and I was stung to read at how critical other parents are.

One super hoity-toity, judgemental parent wrote:

“People who tell me their babies only need a half hour to 45 minute nap each time are people who don’t care and don’t love their children enough.

I’ve done my research and bothered to take the time to do so, and learned that babies need more than 45 minutes to nap each time.

If those parents bothered to take the time to care about their children to make them nap, they’d know it too.”


My face: O_o

How can you force a baby to nap when he doesn’t want to nap?

Baby Bun just won’t sleep past 45 minutes, and he seems happy and well-rested enough.

He smiles, giggles, plays…

To say that a parent is an awful, horrible person for not forcing their baby to nap longer than what they want to nap, and that they don’t care or love their children enough to do so, is very damning and hurtful.

I’m also seeing that he can’t sleep more than 1.5 hours during the day or else it screws up his night sleep and he has started needing to nap every 2 hours. So he sleeps 45 minutes, wakes up for 2 hours, then sleeps another 45 minutes all the way until bedtime.

But this is all experimental. You should not let a baby sleep more than 3 hours, from what I was told, but Baby Bun can’t go past 1.5 hours.

Update: After going back to work, he has started waking up in the middle of the night for Mommy time. *sigh* He won’t eat, won’t sleep, wants to be held, cuddled and taken around the apartment. I hope this phase passes.


Know how some babies just.. sleep anywhere, any time? Not this one.

He can’t sleep unless it’s a Baby Bun pre-approved spot. This means in the Chimparoo carrier, the car seat, the stroller, his bed at home or on our bed at home.

Otherwise, he cries bloody murder and refuses to sleep. When we go over to friends’ houses and try to get him to nap, I pop him in the Chimparoo and pat his butt to sleep or I put him in the stroller, cover it with a blanket and stroll him around the block until he sleeps.

He WON’T sleep on their bed, their couch, the floor, rug.. nowhere he hasn’t feel comfortable with beforehand.

On the bright side, the other day he was bouncing around, 3 hours later, refusing to nap in his bed and he just flopped over on a pillow on our futon and fell asleep. Just like that. 3 seconds later, head on the pillow, out like a light.

FIRST TIME EVER. I was so surprised, I started taking photos.


  • MelD

    I am amazed that one parent would criticise another and think their way was the “right” way (and I’m in Switzerland where the Swiss way is always the “right” way LOL!!).
    My experience is now of 5 babies (3 of mine and 2 grandkids) – they are all different and they also change with time, so sometimes a great schedule goes haywire again, but that is just normal! Sigh.
    Funny to read how your little boy wants to go straight to standing – my eldest did that! She would just stiffen and want to be pulled up to stand, on my lap or wherever, even at 3 mths. Everyone said she will be bow-legged (she isn’t!) and her back will be ruined (it’s not!). She stood throughout her christening and smiled at the people behind me… At 6 mths she was standing and even walking along holding onto the bookcases or our hands. She finally let go and walked (well, ran, really!) at 9 mths: it was so cute because she was so much smaller than other beginner walkers that were usually around a year old!! She is still very active at 30 🙂

    • save. spend. splurge.

      I felt so terrible reading that post and felt like a bad mother but then I thought: each person is different. I can’t force myself to sleep either so why should I go through that ordeal? We were both miserable.

      Yes!!! He is already standing by himself with minimal help. His time right now is 5 seconds unsupported on a bed. That’s pretty darn good. He is fearless in practicing his standing as well.

  • Morgaine

    Thank you! I will definitely add the pump to the list of things to buy. These posts have been really helpful and enlightening 🙂 Keep ’em coming!

  • Revanche

    I can’t bear most parenting forums because they’re full of sanctimony – it’s a shame many can’t manage to be a multi-experience resource for all without turning into a big moshpit of passing judgment because someone did something different. I love that the most sensible people in my life don’t always assume they know what’s best when LB hasn’t even been born yet. We haven’t met the kid yet and they already know best! 😛

    Neat that BB’s sleep patterns are sorting themselves out 🙂

  • anna

    I love these posts so much, and I get so excited thinking about my own little one. Thank you so much for your thoughts and experiences, they are really helpful and it’s nice to have a reference to go back to should I experience these things!! 🙂 I definitely get anxious about returning to work, and the transition of it since he’ll be at a daycare. I hope it turns out okay!

    • save. spend. splurge.

      Yes please email if you need more advice or a sounding board if you run into these problems

      Daycare may or may not be a problem for transition. Depends on your baby’s personality. Baby Bun is a little less independent in that regard, because he is very attached to me and familiarity.

  • Miemo

    oh man! So good to read updates. That double electric pump sounds scary, but makes sense. I emailed you!!

  • CheapMom

    I bought two manual pumps and they worked for me. I splurged on any gadget I could think of to get the breastfeeding to work though because I was just so miserable!

    I loved reading how proud you were about your little one pulling up. It’s amazing watching them grow, isn’t i?

    • save. spend. splurge.

      I thought about 2 manual pumps but I was pumping so long and so often I knew my hands would get tired. Plus my experiences mommy friends told me to forget the manual pumps. One gave me her electric pump (so sweet!!!)

      Yes I’m really amazed at his progress. I can’t believe he was ever that small and helpless. Still helpless but less so.

  • Anne @ Money Propeller

    Ugh. Parents are so, so, so judgey. That quote is both offensive and unfortunately not surprising to me.

    • save. spend. splurge.

      SO JUDGEY!! As if I wasn’t already stressed and on the verge of crying. I tried so hard to get him to sleep more but he just wouldn’t and it made the both of us miserable and upset.

  • Clarisse @ Make Money Your Way

    Oh, I love this baby post! I remember when my daughter was already a few days old, she was too cute and fragile! 🙂 And I bought a manual pump too, it was really hard pumping for 30 minutes and sometimes there was no milk! If I will get pregnant in the future, I would totally buy the double electric pump.

    • save. spend. splurge.

      The double electric pump was a lifesaver. There was no milk at the start but I pumped every 1.5-3 hours to force my milk supply up for 3 months, then I didn’t pump as often but I pumped for longer.

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