Why do we torture ourselves by comparing our progress against others?
It’s mostly because we like to benchmark. I want to know (for bad or for worse), how I am faring against others in my age group for instance.
It lets me know where I stand, basically.
But then I read a quote in a random book yesterday that said:
You should stop comparing yourself to others.
Compare yourself to who you were yesterday.
It gave me pause for thought because I am always looking at others to know where I stand, but in truth, no one else can be the best benchmark for me except for myself.
No one else has had the exact same situation, experiences, and opportunities as I have.
It should really be how far I have personally come, and if I am truthfully happy with who I have become thus far.
No one else’s achievements or progress really matters.
With that in mind, I reviewed the major areas of my life, and they all come up green for me.
Sure, I have a few worries, like how I am going to deal with not being able to work for the rest of 2013, and how I will have to basically turn down working for the majority of 2014 because of the baby.. but I am not too concerned at this point.
I simply have to trust that things will work out.