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Financial advice I wish my parents had given me

When I got my first job flipping burgers, I wish my parents had sat me down and said: Listen up! Now that you have a job, you have responsibilities to take care of your money. 

(Actually, it would have been ideal to have learned about money before, but my parents weren’t big on giving money away for free which is why I never got an allowance.)

Here’s what I wish my parents had told me at a minimum:

  1. Compounding interest is magical. If you save now, you can have X amount in the future.
  2. You don’t need to spend everything you make.
  3. You should save at least 10% of your gross income. See why at #1
  4. Clothes and shoes are fun things to spend on, but do you really want them badly? Why not wait?
  5. Here’s what a budget looks like in this household, and this is what it looks like with your pay!

Of course there is more advice I would have liked, but starting with those top 5 pieces of advice and then moving onto harder things like how to invest your money (although they’re always looking for the next Apple or Google stock, whereas I am lazier and I like index funds).

What little they DID tell me, I followed religiously (even if I noticed that THEY don’t seem to follow their own advice)

  • Never carry credit card balances; once you spend an amount, pay it in full immediately.
  • Turn off any lights you are not using.
  • Always turn the tap off and never let the water run for no reason.
  • Cook at home, it’s better, you get more and it’s cheaper (they’re now restaurant junkies, however).
  • Walking won’t kill you, and if you want to get somewhere, take the bus and don’t expect a ride!

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I’m not mad at my parents for not having been the best financial role models, because in a way, I have them to thank for my utter lack of knowledge about money, and if I had not gotten myself into such a large amount of student debt, I am not so sure I’d be as financially independent as I am today.

My own personal finance rules are:

  1. No one should be more interested in your money than you
  2. You shouldn’t be dependent on anyone financially; be interdependent
  3. Only you can make your own choices (and mistakes) with your money
  4. Becoming wealthy is earning like a princess/prince but living like a pauper
  5. A net dollar saved is two (gross) dollars earned
  6. Compounding interest is magical — save as soon as you can!
  7. Retirement is not a right — it’s a privilege you save your money for
  8. Your intellect is the best money maker and asset you’ll ever have
  9. Hard work matters: I’d rather be stupid and hardworking, than smart but lazy
  10. Money isn’t everything, but it sure is a necessary part of everything you do in life

If I were to teach my future kids about money, I’d start with a selection of the above and build on those lessons.

Having fun matters too, I am ALL about spending (obviously..) but not if it’s at the risk of jeopardizing your financial security.


What do you wish your parents had told you?

 

 

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Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

Millionaire at 36 after getting out of $60K of student debt in 18 months, a little over a decade earlier, using TheBudgetingTool.com. Since then, I have paid my $600K home in cash (my half was $300K), my $180K casr in cash, worked 50% of my career (taking 1-2 year breaks), and quadrupled my income within 2 years of graduating, going from $65K to $260K with an average lifetime savings rate of 50%. I could retire today if I wanted, but love my work-life balance as a freelancing consultant in STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, Math). I am all about balance - between time and money, and also enjoying my money. I also post daily on Instagram @saverspender.

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8 Comments

  1. PK

    “Walking won’t kill you, and if you want to get somewhere, take the bus and don’t expect a ride!” – I haven’t ridden a bus since college, haha. I did some of those long haul buses, and even once or twice braved the insane public transport system of Los Angeles.

    Solid list, my friend.

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    1. saverspender @ save. spend. splurge.

      I STILL ride the bus and take the metro even to this day. Donated my car to charity and I feel like I don’t really need one. I’ll buy one if I see a need (much cheaper than renting for 52/weeks in a year), but I am content to be car-less for now.

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  2. Jane Savers @ Solving The Money Puzzle

    I wish they had told me something/anything about money. They never mentioned money ever, at all.

    A little career advice in high school would have been a good idea too. I studied business at the community college in my town. I wasn’t interested in any kind of office work but some of my friends were taking it and it meant I could delay working for 3 years.

    I had to put myself through a lot of retraining these last ten years to get in to a job I love. Getting paid to do something you love would have been excellent career advice.

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    1. saverspender @ save. spend. splurge.

      It’s funny how as kids we don’t have all the pieces of knowledge that today, we would consider “common sense”.

      Not talking about money at all is the worst thing parents can do to hamstring their kids. They think they’re protecting them but eventually, children become adults.

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  3. me.iz

    i wish they had told me why i need to save a lot : for my own retirement purpose, and not for buying things like huge house, best car, best clothes, etc etc..and sometimes they make me confused..they tell me that ‘this’ is not important, ‘that’ is more important, but often they make the opposite decision..

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    1. saverspender @ save. spend. splurge.

      Maybe if they gave you reasons that made sense, a philosophy by which to live your life, it would be easier.

      This is what I learned for myself — buy the best and biggest for only what you care about (food for instance), and don’t bother about the rest (fancy cars when I don’t need one).

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  4. cj

    I wish they had told me that I could make money how ever the hell I wanted.

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    1. saverspender @ save. spend. splurge.

      Did they not? Did they try to get you to make money in a certain profession? My parents did not try that on me (they were kind of like hippies), but other friends I have, had their parents force them into professions.

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