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Are you mentally strong or just following the herd?

Thought I’d share this great list with you:

Mentally strong people DO NOT do the following:

  1. Waste time feeling sorry for themselves – I do wallow in a pity party from time to time but I get over it.
  2. Give away their power – I do not do this.
  3. Shy away from change – I also do not do this. Change is good.
  4. Waste energy on things that they can’t control – Again, something I have learned not to do.
  5. Worry about pleasing others – I worry a tiny bit, but I recognize that and try not to let it take over.
  6. Fear taking calculated risks – I take risks, but I cannot say all of my risks have been ‘calculated’.
  7. Make the same mistakes over and over – I do make the same mistakes, but not more than twice, max.
  8. Resent other peoples’ success – I do admit to feeling a bit jealous at times but this is something I get over.
  9. Give up after failure – It can be disheartening to fail, but I cope well after a little pity party (with fudge).
  10. Fear alone time – I crave it sometimes.
  11. Feel the world owes them anything – Nope. I do not feel this way nor do I understand those who do.
  12. Expect immediate results – I am impatient, but I know things take time.

Read the entire list with explanations here.

Basically, you have to practice at being mentally strong or else you will never become strong.

None of this comes easily to anyone, and it takes hard work to reach any kind of strength.

You have also try a lot, and be prepared to fail a lot, or else how do you expect to get the experience you need to become stronger?

How do you measure up?


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Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

I got out of $60,000 of debt in 18 months using TheBudgetingTool.com. Since then, I have worked 50% of my career (taking 1-2 year breaks), and quadrupled my income within 2 years of graduating, going from $65K to $260K (savings rate = 85%). I could retire today if I wanted, but love my work-life balance as a freelancing consultant in STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, Math). I also post daily on Instagram @saverspender.

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    Faith

    I struggle with all the above. I’ve talked to some about this who say this improves as you age. But I need to work on this now.
    My current dilemma is that I am graduating soon and feel I should start looking for a job but I don’t feel like I fit in any particular career. I really want to be a freelance writer but worry about what my family will think if I stick with my low paying retail job, continue to live with my mom while working on my biz.

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    1. save. spend. splurge.

      Well.. if you have a plan and a knack for freelance writing and are going to accept that the job will not likely pay more than minimum wage (assuming you do it full-time), I say go for it. You can also talk to other freelancers like Esther of nzmusings.com who talks about being a freelancer. Maybe you can pick up some tips from her!

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    Corianne

    I think I’m doing fairly well on this list.

    I LOVE alone time and I’ve really recognised over the years that sometimes I just *need* to check out and have some alone time.

    I’ve also become very good at not wasting energy on things I don’t control. I try to focus on what I can control, to prepare myself on the things I can prepare on, but once it’s done, I remind myself: don’t worry about it anymore, what’s done is done and let’s see what happens.

    I also try not to get my hopes up on things. I prepare myself mentally by thinking it won’t happen or that the worst will happen, so then when it actually works out, I can be really happy about it.

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    1. save. spend. splurge.

      As long as you are able to mentally stand up on your own, I think following the herd is fine too. No need to be contrary all the time but as long as you really think about your decision for yourself.

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