First Trimester Trials and Tribulations: How my pregnancy is going so far
So just in case any of you are interested, I thought I’d update all of you on how my first trimester has been.
If you aren’t interested in reading about how my first trimester went, feel free to skip this post.
It may also be a little too honest for some people, but hey.. better the truth than none at all seeing as I know some of you expressed an interest in kind of learning how my pregnancy has been progressing so you can anticipate it for yourself in the future.
So here goes!
I DIDN’T WANT TO EAT AT ALL IN WEEK 6
This thankfully only happened in week 6 (which is usually the time most women find out that they’re pregnant, or so I’m told).
I lost my appetite, I couldn’t really stand the idea of eating, I threw away all the food I bought to cook in the fridge (e.g. peas and broccoli which I used to make my green smoothies with), because the thought of eating them (even now), made me nauseous.
My doctor told me it was very common for women who otherwise had a healthy appetite to lose it once they became pregnant.
I refused to eat anything in week 6. I couldn’t even look at soup. I had to force myself to eat small bites of bread just to get something in me.
..BUT AFTER WEEK 6, I HAVE NOT HAD A PROBLEM EATING FOOD
It was only after Week 6 that my appetite came back. I didn’t lose any of it, but I could not stand the thought of eating peas, broccoli, cucumbers, melons and basically anything very green or floral.
Everything else was okay.
Now, the only thing I still can’t smell or eat are cucumbers, melons and peas. Broccoli has made it back on my list.
Otherwise, I do not feel sick thinking about any kind of food at all. I have had a healthy appetite so far.
No aversions to looking at or touching raw meat, or anything that women seem to experience.
My mother and my mother-in-law both told me that they couldn’t eat ANYTHING during their pregnancies. They were basically trying to find ways to get food in themselves without throwing up.
They have both expressed delight and envy at how good my appetite is.
I SLEPT A LOT FOR THE FIRST 3 MONTHS
The week (#6) that I found out I was pregnant, all that sudden fatigue, lack of appetite and sleepiness made so much more sense.
My schedule for 3 months:
- Wake up around 9 a.m.
- Grab breakfast
- Go hunt down a lunch or do something minor in the morning
- Eat lunch
- Sleep from 1 p.m. to about 4 p.m.
- Wake up to eat dinner
- Do something minor
- Sleep at around 8 p.m. or 9 p.m. until 9 a.m. the next morning
Walking for more than half an hour took a toll on me. I had to rest pretty much every half hour for at least 10 – 15 minutes.
I felt completely exhausted. No brain power, tired all the time, fatigued, and just sapped of any kind of energy.
Growing a baby takes a lot out of you, and honestly I was just thankful I was not working at the time because I would have been fired for being a slacker.
The fatigue improved in about month 4 or so. It kind of gradually petered out, and I got some of my energy back after the first trimester was over.
I DRANK A LOT OF WATER
I was going through maybe 2L of water a day. I was constantly thirsty.
Couldn’t stop drinking water.
I WAS GOING TO THE BATHROOM A LOT
It is partly due to how much water you are drinking all the time, but it’s also because the slightest little pressure on your bladder makes you want to go to the bathroom BADLY. It’s like you can’t wait.
Then you get there, and there’s barely anything, and it makes you SO FRUSTRATED because it happens about 10 times a day, and during the night as well.
They say this is to help you prep for waking up every 3 hours to feed the baby, but that’s just annoying.
I DIDN’T THROW UP AT ALL… AT ANY TIME
As I very briefly mentioned a long time ago, I do not and still do not experience morning sickness or any kind of constant nausea the way most women seem to.
I slept a lot in lieu of throwing up, I guess.
I only threw up if I was in a really warm area and my motion sickness kicked in.
I just get a lot of excess air in a puff (not a burp!) coming up instead of throwing up.
I guess it’s better than the air coming out the other end, if you know what I mean. I heard a lot of pregnant women tell me that they were so embarrassed because they were passing gas all the time, but this has not really happened to me.
I just get this huge rush of air coming up from time to time.
Not a true burp with noise and a smell, but .. just.. a quick rush of air like my stomach is settling and it had extra air to get rid of, but without any kind of smell or sound except for me going: “Uhh!”.
I don’t know how else to describe it.
I AM A LOT SWEATIER AND HOTTER THAN BEFORE
I am sweating like crazy sometimes. I’ll be sleeping and then I’ll have to throw off the covers because I’m drenched in sweat in the middle of the night.
Apparently my body is upping the body heat for two, which is why I am a lot hotter and warmer than I ever was in the past.
I am also sweating a lot which means I am starting to have to wipe down my armpits more often and wear deodorant to keep it under control. Of course, wearing natural, breathable fabrics also helps, but… truth be told, I am just really.. really.. warm.
I AM RUBBING A LOT OF COCOA BUTTER & SHEA BUTTER ON THE BUMP
Every time I can remember, I am rubbing these butters on my bump, my back, my front of my thighs and all over my chest.
Everywhere my skin is expanding and stretching, I am rubbing cocoa and shea butter.
It’s pretty oily, I won’t lie.
So I have a set of white shirts (long and short-sleeve) that I throw on after I rub myself and the bump down with butter so that when I go to sleep, I am not making an buttery mess on the sheets.
Seems to work so far.
I also started to notice this kind of green vein or line going down my bump, and my sides just under my chest are starting to look a little red and stretched.
FYI: MISCARRIAGE USUALLY HAPPENS WITHOUT YOU KNOWING IT
So don’t freak out.
Obviously in the first trimester, you are freaking out about miscarriage a lot. Turns out, women tend to miscarry within Week 1 – Week 6, and they may not even know that they miscarried.
I am not saying that women do NOT miscarry afterwards (please! be careful!), but I was told by my doctor to calm down and just take it easy for the first trimester and not freak out too much about miscarrying as it had a low chance of happening if I was careful.
It’s just hard when you read these baby books of all the diseases and things you have to worry about when growing a new little human, that you can get REALLY paranoid.
NO ONE CAN TELL I AM PREGNANT UNTIL I TURN AROUND
At the end of my first trimester, I looked the same just with a little svelte bump.
I’m (and still am) really tiny. Like barely there for the first trimester.
It just looked like I am a little chubby in the middle. You know, apple-shaped.
This was kind of tough because sometimes I really needed to sit because I was so tired, but no one could see I was visibly pregnant, so I wouldn’t get offered a seat and I would be far too polite to demand one.
Luckily, my partner has been a little more aggressive in securing empty seats for me on trains and buses before I get to the spot, and then waiting and blocking the seat until I am able to sit down.
I DO NOT HAVE GLOWING SKIN
Oily? Yes. Glowing? No. My face was just a mess with acne and pimples for the first trimester and even a bit now.
I am hit the hardest in the eyebrows, jawline, nose and mouth area, and sides of my face. All the hormonal areas went in overdrive, causing pimples like you couldn’t believe.
Very disappointing, but I will also note it was because I was coming off The Pill as well which might have contributed to my whacked out hormones.
NO CRYING FITS, SADNESS, ANGER OR ANY ODD EMOTIONS SO FAR
I feel the same as I did before. Maybe I am a slightly bit weepier and more prone to being sensitive, but I have not been crying for no reason, or angry for no reason.
Then again, I never experienced any of the same symptoms as other women when I did have my periods, (you know PMS stuff) so maybe it’s just that my body is not wired for high ranging emotions due to hormones?
I COULD NOT FIT INTO MY PANTS AT THE END
By the end of my first trimester, pants were out of the question. I buy mid-rise to high-rise pants, so this is no surprise.
I mean I can still technically wear my high-rise jeans if I were to stand and walk all the time, but the fly is totally down, no buttons at all.
The pain comes when I sit down, it kind of cuts into my belly, which makes it uncomfortable.
So now I stick to my dresses and maternity jeans.
I AM TRYING TO TRAIN MYSELF TO SLEEP ON MY SIDE
I am told in books and online that sleeping on your back (my favourite) is a bad idea because it blocks off the blood circulation to your baby, which carries oxygen.
They suggest sleeping on your side with a pillow, and preferably on your LEFT side.
It is so hard to do this because you naturally (or at least I naturally) do not like sleeping on my side, and I shift a lot. I prefer sleeping on my back, but then I wake up in a panic when I am on my back and force myself to the side.
Very frustrating. I do not want to deprive my baby of oxygen but I also want to sleep….. #%*%#%
I DON’T REALLY UNDERSTAND BEING ASKED WHAT WEEK I AM
When I gave the month (or general month) of how far along I was, like “Oh 3 months”, I was asked a number of times “So how many weeks is that?”
Me: O_o …Er….. 3 months x 4 weeks = 12 weeks…. no?
I get that people want precise weeks, but .. only if you’re REALLY interested in pregnancy and you know what each week represents.
Otherwise, it’s all a blur to me. I go by months, even in my head I think: “around 3.5 months“..
NO ONE HAS TRIED TO TOUCH MY BELLY
Frankly, it doesn’t or wouldn’t bother me if someone tried to pet my belly in a good natured manner (not if you’re trying to hurt me or my baby, of course). *shrug*
I’m not really that .. well .. private about it. It’s nice if people think that it’s a good thing I’m pregnant.
Better than the opposite right?
Honestly I think everyone is scared to touch my belly.
After all these rants about pregnant women getting mad at strangers just coming up and petting their belly, I think society in general is scared to even LOOK at a belly in fear of being asked: Whaddya lookin’ at, you creep!?
(Also, just in case you aren’t really pregnant and then it’s just awkward because you really only had a food belly.)
At any rate, no spontaneous belly touching has happened but that could also be that I am in the middle of winter now and my belly is usually covered with a huge coat.
MY BELLY DIDN’T FEEL TIGHT AT ALL IN THE FIRST TRIMESTER
For the first trimester, you only just feel a little bump growing. No tightness, no heaviness, it just feels like you ate a big burrito and it’s showing in a bump.
Moving into my second trimester, I am starting to feel a little heavier in the front, kind of like drank a gallon of water, and sometimes I get the twinge like I am about to have a really heavy period about to happen (which is also normal).
I DO HAVE A SLIGHT CRAVING NOW FOR SPICY FOOD
Moving into my second trimester, I have started craving spicy food. I am eating jalepeno peppers with almost everything, and throwing on the chili sauce like there’s no tomorrow.
I don’t know what started it, but.. I love spicy food now.
I AM HOPING I AM AS EASYGOING AS MY MOTHER WAS FOR LABOUR
With us kids, my mom had us within 3-5 hours. That’s it.
No other labour problems.
I am hoping I am that lucky as well.
Then again, she also gave birth naturally (no epidural!!), and tried to get me to agree to do it too.
Me: No. NO WAY. You will definitely be seeing me drugged. There’s no way I am going to avoid drugs that will kill the pain.
Yep. No natural birthing plan here. I just want the pain to be as minimal as possible, the kid to come out as soon as it can, and that’s it.
PUT ON 3 POUNDS SO FAR — GUESSING I WILL SHED THE ENTIRE WEIGHT IN A MONTH
My mother was about my size and had a similar-sized bump when she had us, and she said it was very easy to lose the weight. It was gone in perhaps a month, and she fit back into her clothes easily.
I’m fairly sure I will be the same way, so I’m not worried about a baby weight loss plan or anything like that.
At the end of my first trimester, I only put on 3 pounds. (I was 105 lbs before, I was 108 lbs at the end of my first trimester.)
There will be no 60 – 75 pound weight gain here!!
Moving into my second trimester, I feel good.
Decent energy, I am not going crazy on the food (no major cravings), and that’s about it.
That’s about it.
UPDATE: WHAT MY SELF-IMPOSED DIET IS
I do have a diet I am adhering to. My doctor told me to eat basically anything I wanted within reason, and to avoid large fish because of mercury…
I am a little more paranoid so here’s what I am avoiding:
1. No raw meats or seafood of any kind — in France women eat steak tartare even when pregnant, and I am not going to take a chance.
2. No deli meats or anything cold and smoked without being cooked (listerosis fear). So for instance if I were to buy smoked bacon that would otherwise be okay to eat as-is, it would have to be cooked before I could eat it. Or chorizo, dried sausages, etc.
3. No eating of vegetables and fruit that can’t be thoroughly washed. Raspberries and blackberries are out because I cannot really truly wash the skin and be OK knowing there are no pesticides on there. I’ve been eating oranges and peeling apples, pears etc. Mushrooms are also out in this category because it is very hard to wash a mushroom and be sure that it’s clean.
4. No soya sauce, peanuts, sesame anything or chocolate in fear of giving an allergy or having something too intense for the baby. This has apparently been debunked by researchers but better safe than sorry.
5. No caffeine of any kind — no teas, no coffees, no chocolate, no pop. It is not bad per se, it just probably winds the baby up because it’s so tiny that any kind of stimulant would be too much.
6. Nothing in plastic — no milk in plastic jugs, nothing stored in plastic as a liquid.. so all my milk is now organic and in glass jars (which is what I was drinking before anyway), but that means Starbucks is out as they have milk in plastic bags.
7. No tuna. It’s the worst for mercury. Also, no fishes over a certain size because of the mercury.. sardines are the safest in this case.
8. No junk food, no restaurant fare and as little sugar or candy as possible (v. hard).
I am not craving or eating McDonald’s or anything like that… not that I did it before, but I think some women crave junk food and then go nuts.
That’s about it off the top of my head. I am sure I am missing a rule or two here and there, but that’s the gist of it.
I am trying hard to eat more green vegetables now that broccoli and brussel sprouts do not make me nauseous, and trying my best to eat whole grain stuff as much as possible rather than white rice or white flour…
I am also eating more walnuts for the omega-3s, and bananas for the magnesium as well as taking prenatal vitamins.