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You don’t touch my family.

I have been cyber bullied, harassed, attacked and called terrible names for many years because of my blogging and my views.

They even hacked into email addresses and have been constantly trying to hack into ALL of my accounts (I get so many notifications about this).

But where I draw the line after over a decade, is harassing my family, especially posting Little Bun, harassing my colleagues and even where I work.

I also draw the line at my neighbourhood being posted, shops where Little Bun goes being pointed out, and basically disrespecting my right to privacy.

I meant it when I said my family and privacy comes first. I really don’t want to be famous, I don’t care about any of this sh*t, it was just a hobby.

As a result of one asshole who has been harassing me, and everyone connected online.

I am sorry to the 99.9999% of you who have been lovely. This is in no way a reflection upon you. It’s literally one asshole.

Minor changes:

I am no longer posting any personal money updates.

I am no longer posting personal style-anything.

I will cut back on all personal posting and you may find gaps in part of my posting as a result in the coming days, and in previous posts.

I will still post link roundups, my week of money, and all the posts you all have told me you have enjoyed.

Thanks.

Instagram update:

  • I went private, and will personally approve every account that comes through.
  • I will no longer post personal updates like money or style, but I will still follow your lovely Stories and comment / message with all of you.
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43 Comments

  1. Chrissy @ Eat Sleep Breathe FI

    Hi Sherry, I’ve been a lurker on your site for years and think I’ve only ever commented once… this was so horrifying to me that I had to comment and share my sympathy.

    I am so sorry you had to go through this. I can’t believe someone would go through all that hassle to expose your info… and to go after your son?! Totally not okay.

    Have you gleaned any info that might be helpful to other bloggers to protect themselves from this? I’m freaked out now!

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      You should be fine. I am open about how I feel about a lot of subjects, and I don’t take nonsense. You I think, is not as controversial. If people feel intimidated by that and jealous enough to spend hours hacking into my email, and then being a Facebook employee to dig into my private DELETED PROFILES (I am not literally not googleable), then there is not much else you can do.

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  2. Amanda

    I’m sorry this happened to you and your family, how scary! I love your analytical approach to style and learned a lot from what you’ve shared as a Canadian woman who invests. I should have said so sooner!

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      Thank you for telling me.

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  3. DI

    I’m so so so sorry this has happened to you. I’ve also gained a lot from your posts – having a kid 2 years younger, I’ve learned a lot from the way you’re raising Little Bun also, and how you’ve managed to navigate work, a relationship with your partner, and raising a really lovely kid. You have been almost like a distant, anonymous big sister I could learn from. As a long-time reader it is really sad to hear that you and your family have been harassed in any way for the great content that you share. I completely understand that you need to scale back for personal protection – and thank you for posting as much as you did. Stay safe, D

    PS that commenter Ted is ridiculous. Don’t listen to that.

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      I appreciate you taking the time to write this. I really went to a spot where I thought: What is the point of all of this, if I’ll just get hassled?….. but then I took a break and decided to not do personal money or style posts but everything else will stay the same more or less..

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  4. raluca

    Wow, that’s super spooky. I’m sorry this happened to you and I hope that karma gets that a-hole!

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      It’s creepy, and it was most certainly a Facebook employee.

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  5. Bonnie Barley

    I hate this so much for you and your family. So unsettling. I will greatly miss you on IG. But if I’m reading correctly, you’ll still have your blog? I hope so. We are in the same page on so many things. Best wishes for peace and safety.

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      Yes – I am still on the blog, and I am still on IG but privately, and only sharing in stories / posts with nothing personal.

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  6. Susan

    I am so sorry to hear that this happened to you. You have my deepest respect. I have always found that you are very generous with your knowledge and I love your fashion posts. I think you have a confident, self-assured voice and that is threatening to someone who lacks confidence and self worth. It is horrifying that this individual has the tools can try to harm you. I hope you and your family remain safe and healthy. I’m rooting for you!

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      Thank you so much. It was done illegally, and luckily, now everyone knows and is on the lookout for someone stalking us.

      Reply
  7. Vee

    Hi Sherry,

    I am so sorry this is happening to you and your family. It only takes one A-hole. It’s disgusting when they target the kids. I hope this is resolved quickly and you and your family can feel safe again. I just wanted to take this moment and thank you for all that you do. I have been following since you were in debt, and discovering your profile on IG brought me back to the PF community. So thank you! I will miss all your updates, your transparency motivated me that I can set and achieve big goals as well. Good luck as you continue to achieve ALL your goals.

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      Thank you so much. I am also sad I cannot post about my money but.. it is what it is.

      Reply
  8. Alexis McKenzie

    Add me to the list of people that gained so much from your posts! Thank you for the positive impact you have made <3

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      Thank you so much. Just trying to take a deep breath

      Reply
  9. Lenny

    So sorry. There’s always that one person that ruins it for everyone. I hope your family hasn’t suffered too much, I can only imagine how stressful these kinds of things can be. I’m surprised what people want to dedicate their time to considering we are all here for such a short time.

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      Honestly, it’s people with nothing better to do with their lives, which I think says a lot more about them than it does about me. Even if they “reveal it all”, it doesn’t change anything. A good chunk of people in my personal and professional life know that I am successful (they are too, hence how they know), and they know my situation. It is more that I value personal privacy as I have never wanted to be famous for anything, and they crossed the line with my son who is an innocent in all of this.

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  10. Tim

    Ugh, that SUCKS so bad. I’m so sorry to hear that one person is literally driving you to remove all personal content. It’s so sad and I can’t believe people do this crap. Seriously with all the issues in the world they decide to focus on being an ass to one person [insert several swear words in the language and cultural context of your choice]. Sigh, take care and I hope things get better

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      These are just insecure people, like Ted who commented, who are here curiously drawn to my flame but have no idea why they’re so angry at me, when in fact if they went to therapy they’d be a lot happier.

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  11. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

    I hope this made you feel better.

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  12. SSS Fan

    What a dirty, rotten creep! I don’t understand these nasty pieces of work on the internet who like to invade the privacy of people who are adding value to others’ lives. Sorry to hear of your troubles!

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  13. Kemi

    I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been going through this. I’ve visited your blog for years and your money posts actually inspired me to track my money and even buy your spreadsheet.

    Thank you for the work that you’ve done for years and a pox on the person that is harassing you.

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      Thank you. It’s just frustrating to be targeted for really, nothing at all. Why not use those skills for good instead of harassment.

      Reply
  14. Sandy

    I am heartbroken that you have to go through this, your personal money journey and fashion journey has had such a positive impact for me personally. I also know that this hobby of yours has touched and changed the lives of so many for the better! Please know that your words of advice, encouragement and sharing your experiences has made this world a better place and I know that I am not the only one that is grateful to you for it.

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  15. Gail

    How unfair and sick! I am indeed sorry there re people who violate the best of us. You have provided so much enjyment and information that you deserve an award, not this…

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      I wouldn’t go as far as “award”, but thank you. It is a very pleasant hobby that I am afraid I have to curtail and contemplate stopping altogether.

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  16. corianne

    damn, scary! much love <3

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  17. Anne

    Thank you for years of style inspiration, Sherry.. I didn’t always comment but I always checked your outfit posts. I am really sorry that this is happening to you.

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      Thank you. I am sad I cannot share that any more.

      Reply
  18. Paula

    So sorry for what happened, I’m going to miss the money updates, but it’s fair. Be safe!

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      I am sorry too. It was actually one of my favourite things to do and I put hours of work into each one that I have since deleted.

      Reply
  19. Beau W.

    Karma always wins! I believe that.

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      I do too. It cannot be that you are a horrible person and live your whole life with nothing happening.

      Reply
  20. Julia

    Their actions are unacceptable, completely respect your increased privacy. Grateful for all you’ve shared and how you’ve encouraged others. Please have some stuffed cookies <3

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      I’ll need to buy something!

      Reply
  21. Beau W.

    Look up J J. Luna. He is a privacy expert. He’s the best in the business. Google How too Be Invisible. He does personal consultation also. You won’t be disappointed. I guarantee you that.

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      Thanks. They hacked my emails, so there wasn’t much you can do beyond that.

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      1. Kat

        JJ Luna’s advice is outdated and kinda paranoid, I’ve read his books before, he wants you to become too paranoid and too secretive, if you’re too secretive then people think you have something to hide and then they become even more suspicious of you. The 3rd edition of his book is from 2012. There are more modern books out there for privacy stuff. I mean you have your own book that you wrote on staying anonymous.

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        1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

          Yes I have no personal presence at all online. They literally had to hack my email to get to my information.

          Reply

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