Ask Sherry: Do I ever want to just eff off and leave my family?
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Hi Sherry! I was wondering if you ever feel the need for personal space/alone time inside your home (both in general and during these Covid times), like, for example, to be in a spare bedroom or somewhere else by yourself.
Do you ever retreat to such a place or feel the need to do it in order to recharge yourself, do your thing, like reading, blogging, or whatever you prefer? Or are you fine always being with your family members in the same room(s)?
(I am teasing with the title by the way, I know that’s not what you meant! :-))
And yes I do. ALL THE TIME
100% I wish I could leave and go out of the apartment elsewhere, to a secret cocoon where I have this day bed, all my books, lots of chocolate and I can relax.
I fantasize about this. This is why when I was at home, I ALWAYS made it a point to leave once a week to go out and be alone, so I could be by myself again. I love being alone, and I miss it especially during this pandemic.
It is ROUGH to be with the same people 24/7, especially my son, not because I don’t love them, but because it’s hard for me to turn my brain off if I do not leave them and physically leave the apartment.
Unless I am physically away from my son, I worry about it. Period. While he’s sleeping, he’s playing, he’s somewhere else, I am always attuned to him and his needs and it is mentally exhausting. My brain is always on, and tuned to Little Bun.
If I physically leave the apartment, I don’t have him on my mind and I can release, and relax. It’s also why I think I have been under constant stress (aura migraine pain on the rise), because I can’t unclench my brain.
I loved going out once a week, even to just sit in a cafe, read a book or blog. Or just browse on Instagram. It was so great. Now, I am stuck with them 24/7.
I even like it when my partner goes out more often and leaves me alone with Little Bun at home, because I just like having SPACE and less people around me (I have some introvert leanings). But it is what it is.