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What are some self-care things you do?

I feel like I never even knew “self-care” was a thing until I had a child.

Every day, and every action was “self-care”… frankly.

Until I had a child, I started realizing exactly how important this is to your self and well-being. As a parent, you have this instinct to just sacrifice yourself.

You give away your last bite of your favourite food (usually cake) to your baby because he is looking up at you with seal pup eyes, and looks so darn cute…

You say “yes of course, my love” to your baby when he asks you to read The Nice Book for the tenth time (TRUE STORY, EVERYONE).

Then at the end of the day, especially if you are a full-time working mother not to mention an INSANE person to be also blogging daily like I am, you realize you are completely spent.

You’re exhausted, and unable to do much else.

From there, it snowballs. You skip outings to yoga, you skip going out for whatever reason, you have zero energy to go to the park with your son…. and you put on weight (like I have).

It is a pound here and there, but before you know it, your skirt is tight and you’re thinking:

OMG.

Is that.. a croissant shaped bulge on either the side of my body?

(Also a true story.)


So lately I have been trying to figure out what things make me happy. What are some “self-care” things that I do for myself, and maybe you can pass along some things that YOU do.

1. TURN OFF ALL DEVICES

No more checking work emails, regular emails, posts, messages, what have you. TURN IT OFF.

2. GO TO THE SPA

Pricey habit as of late, but I have been doing IPL laser treatments on my skin for wrinkles, laser hair removal so that I can stop having to run a razor over my leg and underarm fuzz, and recently I have committed to doing monthly pedicures.

I have started to appreciate the small pleasure in looking down at my toes and seeing COLOUR! Pretty COLOUR!

You won’t believe how many MEN compliment my toes either. Who knew men were so perceptive about colour or pedicures?

I had a colleague tell me he loved this Essie dark magenta pink colour on my nails (in a non creepy way) and he is almost nearing retirement, ready to sail off into the sunset with his wife and 3 kids.

3. HAVE A CUP OF COCOA & READ A BOOK

This only happens if Little Bun is safely ensconced at preschool and in safe, capable, patient and loving hands, and I am at home working remotely or taking a much needed day off.

3. GO TO YOGA

I try and carve out time for this but during work it is HARD. I have so many meetings and conference calls that to squeeze even an hour and a half out is really hard.

It takes half an hour to get there, and another hour for yoga, and then another 15 minutes back.

Deep breathing does help. Lying down at the end of the class to rest after a good stretch, really helps. I feel much better and more grounded afterwards.

I’d also take a walk but I hate walking without a real purpose, even if the purpose is to browse stores along the way.

4. WATCH A FAVOURITE TV SERIES

I even re-watch old favourites like “Castle” or “Seinfeld”. Anything that makes me happy, makes me laugh, and is familiar, is always a great thing.

Then, sometimes I (guiltily) sneak in a KitKat to eat while I watch these things.

I probably shouldn’t eat 300 empty calories each time I do this but… it does make me feel better. Chocolate over wafers, calms me down.

WHAT DO YOU DO?


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Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

I got out of $60,000 of debt in 18 months using TheBudgetingTool.com. Since then, I have worked 50% of my career (taking 1-2 year breaks), and quadrupled my income within 2 years of graduating, going from $65K to $260K (savings rate = 85%). I could retire today if I wanted, but love my work-life balance as a freelancing consultant in STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, Math). I also post daily on Instagram @saverspender.

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    Linda

    Hey Sherry!
    Hope you are well.

    Spa visit of course. I enjoy getting facials! Sometimes I find it more relaxing than a massage.

    Reading a good book.

    Going shopping or browsing for home decor.

    Mani + Pedis are always a good thing. As of late I’ve been doing them myself on a cozy Sunday evening.

    In the summer, I like to ride my bike along the water, then take a break and eat fruits while people watching.

    Do some sort of facial routine at home. Maybe a cleanse, scrub and mask while drink some tea.

    Watch the travel channel and dream about all these luxurious destination places and hotels I hope to visit one day.

    Hang out with my girlfriends and get dinner or spa day.

    Reply
    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      A facial is something I really like, the problem is that my skin is so particular that I break out due to the products they use — too moisturizing, etc..

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        Linda

        I’ve been there. I have one really good esthetician that I only go to. I don’t feel judged and I purposely chose that spa b/c of the products used.

        Bacvin the days I would hop to diff spa but can’t risk getting more breakouts. So once I found her, I stay put!

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        1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

          I need to find someone like that.

          Reply
  2. Financial Orchid

    Cold weather is definitely time for cozing up and self-care. I have an article for that 🙂
    https://financialorchid.com/10-low-cost-self-care-tips-for-fall/
    Hope it helps you

    Reply
  3. Alexis McKenzie

    I love this post. I feel like I have zero ideas except a hot bath! And hot drinks! (As opposed to drinks that used to be hot).

    Putting on face cream is a little luxury.

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      How about dermarolling?

      Reply
  4. J
    Jessica

    I feel like I got the short end of the stick on this issue because the number 1 thing that stresses me out regularly is being surrounded by a mess. Honestly, everything I have to do is so much easier if I can do it in a calm, orderly space. So that means my self-care activity is… cleaning? What a rip off!

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      HEY I WILL TAKE IT. Cleaning sounds great

      Reply

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