I have yet to see a self-care list directed towards women that includes anything properly adult and difficult.
Take for instance this one:
Try gratitude journaling
Volunteer for a cause you care about
Make plans with someone you haven’t seen in a while
Have a self-care night, no phones allowed
Write a letter to your future self
Schedule a friends giving
Donate clothes you haven’t worn in ages
Say “I love you” when you feel it
Are you kidding me right now?
None of these items are terrible. They are all good, but this is pure fluff. Pure, female-targeted fluff by society because they don’t want to really get into the stuff that you should do
A man’s self-care list if one even existed would not say any of these items on there.
Not. A. Single. One.
Can you imagine a men’s list talking about writing a letter to your future self? Or scheduling a friendsgiving? It is more likely to say things like – get your project files in order for your upcoming employee review, or make sure your investment portfolio is solid.
Women’s self care lists NEVER talk about career or money.
I have yet to see a list say:
List out your accomplishments for the year from work so that you can crush your employee review
Review your budget before the holidays so you stay on track and don’t overspend
You have 60 days left – make those days count to finish the year off with a stronger net worth by investing your cash and reviewing your portfolios to rebalance them
Get your tax slips and receipts in order so that tax season isn’t a frazzled rush
I’ll be waiting for that day but I won’t hold my breath.
Society only lets women’s magazines focus on the fluff because it is easy.
It is easy to tell them to write a gratitude journal to be thankful for what they already have.
Much easier than telling them to get their financial $&@! in order so that they can have real stuff like a killer net worth and solid savings to be thankful about.
I want self-care items that don’t tell me to be happy and grateful for what I have and distracting me from actually taking care of myself, my career, my money and my life.
Self-Care is just a business
Everything stems from money and how happy we are with our situation.
If we are poor, all we can think about is how to get out of it.
Writing a gratitude journal might help but know what helps more? MONEY.
If we are making money but feel like we are being left behind, it can cause anxiety and stress, and if self-care is REALLY all about removing that part of in your life, so why aren’t w talking about our money money?
I want self-care items on this list that’ll push me to have MORE things organized and to be grateful for, like having my taxes organized for the next year so I’m not frazzled.
Stop giving me things and reasons to be complacent, and give me things that will be useful and practical.
My self care list for November?
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This is a real “self-care” to do list, because while writing a gratitude journal is a great idea, this list will actually give you things to be grateful for.🤷🏻♀️ A lot of “self-care” lists are full of fluff and don’t actually propel or help women achieve real changes in their lives – it teaches them to turn inward and reflect but that won’t solve your money problems now will it? Only action will change things.🦸🏻♀️ My list for November? Review. Your. Money. & Get. Prepped. You only have 60 days left, give or take, finish strong 💪🏼 and get organized because you KNOW yourself – if you are anything like me, you are BUSY and stressed during the holidays 🎄from work, family obligations, friends and just closing out the year. If you don’t plan your 🎉🧸🛍budget now for the holidays to make sure you stay on plan and don’t overspend or YOLO and then end up having a Holiday Financial Hangover in 2020, THIS is the time to get things into ⚙️! Before you know it, it is February and you’re rushing to contribute to your RRSP/401K before the deadline for tax credits, and you didn’t plan jack so you don’t actually have any money and are considering a LOAN to top it up. 🤦🏻♀️ Not to mention the fact that you’re also going into your review sometime soon and haven’t had time to list everything you’ve rocked this year, so you kind of put asking for a raise on the back burner. AGAIN.🤬 No one is going to help you if you don’t change and do the work first. Get ahead of that December rush, and feel less stressed by getting your actual adult life together and feeling CALM, zen even 🌱so you can enjoy the end of this decade in peace and ❤️.
I’d also add on there –
Review your holiday budget to make sure you won’t overspend and regret it in the new year.
Don’t forget that you only have 60 days to save and max out your retirement accounts as much as possible to get tax benefits, so go easy on the gifts and treat your future self to a big fat retirement account instead.
Follow my list. You’ll end up sexier, happier and less stressed. Guaranteed.
I am ALL ABOUT SELF CARE. I cannot scream this loud enough that I take plenty of time away from my son and just go to a cafe to veg and scroll on Instagram or read a book.
This is not my issue — my issue is never seeing on these lists, a true self-care tip like taking care of your money so that it takes care of you.
At least on one list, I’d like to see: Review your budget and expenses.