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Success Story: New Young Mother Entrepreneur – Stressed Out and Unsure

She wrote me .. the nicest email ever, as a testimonial to the career coaching I offer. I am very proud of her, truly!

All my other Success Stories are here.

I offer career & money coaching here. If I can’t help you, I will say so upfront especially if it is not in my area of expertise (e.g. real estate investments), I don’t want to waste anyone’s time or money.

In her own words, I copied the email exactly:

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I am a Canadian mom and new entrepreneur, long-time follower of Sherry at Save Spend Splurge!

First Finding the Blog

For me, the gateway drug to Sherry’s addictive blog was the fashion tips – especially the minimalism or French fashion tips.

Wow have I ever levelled up thanks to Sherry! I used to be pretty clueless about clothes and now I feel like I can look polished and chic in most environments. And she is not lying when she says she’ll respond to your emails – Sherry has always swiftly and thoughtfully responded to my style queries.

Most notably was when I was a brand new mom going through a major identity crisis; I was super choked because I had given away a Theory blazer that had become too small for me (with the 50lb baby weight gain). Sherry comforted me and also made me feel totally heard!

It was such a relief to have someone say: “I get it” instead of, “It’s just a blazer”.

Suffice to say, I came for the fashion advice but I stayed for the book recommendations, the honest mom talk, and the entrepreneurial inspiration.

Talk about a one stop shop for self-improvement! I love that Sherry doesn’t gloss over the hard parts of motherhood, and she also isn’t in denial about wanting nice things while maintaining a high savings rate.

It makes it easier for me to identify with her.

My Work Life

After years of working a stable government job, I took a leap and started my own business.

This was a major change for me, as no one in my family believes in or had undertaken such “risky” behaviour.

I didn’t really have a close role model and so Sherry’s blog became a real source of support to me.

Anyways, thanks to this positive history with Sherry I immediately thought of her when I started losing sleep worrying about a very cool business opportunity.

Let me lay out some background details:

The Work Stress

I am a mom with a toddler and my husband has a VERY demanding job.

This makes me the primary parent and also the one doing all nighttime wake-ups etc etc. I am used to working really hard and in my pre-mom life I would have 2-3 jobs at the same time because I’m just a super keen over-achiever. In fact, while staying at home with my 1-year-old (while waiting on daycare waitlists) I was working part-time at a government job and also starting up my own business in a creative field. BUSY! I eventually got laid off from the government job which was probably a good thing.

And then, my business led me to meet a fellow that works in the same industry and was interested in partnering with me.

WHAT!

This was some next-level stuff that I was not at all prepared for.

I had barely started my business when he started talking about working together. I was overwhelmed and more than a bit nervous, but I decided to just dive in and not let fear hold me back. So, we started a three-month trial of working together. I worked under his business umbrella with me as a consultant.

It was actually really GREAT! But definitely a learning experience as we discovered each others working styles.

Which leads me to the reason I was losing sleep: I loved working there, but I was also going crazy working there.

It was my dream job and I was teamed up with someone that had a wealth of knowledge and experience to share with me. But I was drowning under the burden of work life and domestic chores. I didn’t have enough time for family and health.

My busy-ness and exhaustion was taking the joy out of work. Another major issue is that my potential business partner didn’t see deadlines the same way as me. I see deadlines as set in stone… for him, it was more fluid.

This was very tough for my type A self! I was majorly getting stressed out as I tried to figure out how to proceed after the three-month trial. I decided to book a coaching call with Sherry, and she scheduled me in right away.

The Call with Sherry

I was nervous to talk to Sherry (“never meet your heroes” right?) especially since I had had a total disaster coaching call with Penelope Trunk where she just tore me down and made me feel like crap, without dispensing any practical applicable advice.

So it was with a bit of trepidation that I tried this business coaching call.

As it turns out, I had ZERO need to be worried! Sherry was warm and friendly and it felt like just chatting with a very insightful gal pal 🙂

Sherry immediately zeroed in on the areas I could adjust to make life easier. I felt so… SEEN, you know?

It was so refreshing to get great advice from a fellow Canadian, let alone a mom who is also an entrepreneur.

Sherry GETS IT. She really does.

The struggle is real and she’s not going to deny it but she definitely gave me some ideas for how to make life manageable. I felt so validated when she told me that I’m an Alpha worker, like she is.

It was such a perfect description; I am totally an Alpha worker and I get frustrated when I have to work at a Beta level (due to sleep deprivation or time constraints).

The practical advice:

Sherry suggested that we raise prices (to decrease the workload), which based on the detailed context I laid out for her, is something we are definitely going to do and it really makes sense to do so.

On the topic of my work teammate’s blasé feelings about deadlines, she explained to me how creative types can view deadlines and gave me some ideas on how to deal with that.

In our chat she also helped me decide that I would only two days a week and focus my role on the more flexible parts of the business, like social media management.

She gave me tips on how to mange the social media.

Bottom line, she totally understood my situation, and could relate to my personal and professional life. Her advice was spot-on and after our chat I felt like a weight had been lifted from my shoulders.

It was as though someone had said to me: you don’t have to quit, you can keep doing this, and I know you’re an Alpha worker but here’s a way to be able to work at an A-level without driving yourself into the ground.

SIGH OF RELIEF!

My Chat with My Work Teammate

Haha I don’t like to call my work “partner” because legally we have not partnered. Maybe we will one day, but for now, we are going to continue working together with me as a consultant.

He is TOTALLY on board with me working only two days a week and being in charge of the social media. He is a really great guy and understand what young family life is like.

We are going to use a new point of sale software to strategically raise prices. I am really excited about working in this new year of 2020, and I am thrilled that my chat with Sherry gave me clarity about how to proceed.

What My Days Will Look Like

I came to Sherry with a hodgepodge of likes and dislikes and worries about my life, and now thanks to her advice I have a solid plan.

It will look like this:

  • Two days a week: work in-shop
  • One day a week: keep my kiddo out of daycare so I can spend time with her, do playdates, etc.
  • Two days a week: sleep, do housework and repairs, car maintenance, my own healthcare, see friends/family etc.
    Whenever I want: work on social media. Use Tailwind so that I only have to do it when I am free and then the posts can be released consistently (Sherry said that consistency is KEY).

Editor’s Note: Consistency is key. You can’t build a blog, business, reputation, social following without being consistent.

This gives my week a lot flexibility, while still having a regular routine and doing the things I love.

My husband works 60-80 hours a week so having some time carved out to take care of me or life stuff makes it so that our home life has some stability.

Thanks Sherry, for taking time to speak with me and for helping me figure out my life! I strongly recommend her services to anyone that needs some advice. Money well spent!!

The End

How nice is she? I am almost in tears right now. She is herself, a very sweet, hardworking, amazing person who just needed some guidance, and that’s what I am here for. <3

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I offer career & money coaching here. If I can’t help you, I will say so upfront especially if it is not in my area of expertise (e.g. real estate investments), I don’t want to waste anyone’s time or money.

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Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

Am my own Sugar Daddy. Am a millionaire at 36 after getting out of $60K of student debt in 18 months, a little over a decade earlier, using TheBudgetingTool.com. I have worked 50% of my career (taking 1-2 year breaks), and quadrupled my income within 2 years of graduating, going from $65K to $260K with an average lifetime savings rate of 50%. I have 11 side incomes that are on track in 2020 to make me $50K - $75K. I could retire today if I wanted, but love my work-life balance as a freelancing consultant in STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, Math). I am all about balance - between time and money, and also enjoying my money. I also post daily on Instagram @saverspender.

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4 Comments

  1. Catherine

    Thank you for sharing this wonderful story – and most importantly, I am so glad that this amazing, hard-working, compassionate entrepreneur was able to receive a fresh set of eyes/perspective on her situation, which was able to help her feel and be more in control of her situation.

    I’ve been your loyal follower since your Fabulously Broke in the City days – and you are authentic, kind, SO smart and very hard working. Thank you for being a voice of reason – delivering messages through your platform – a message that is kind, inspiring and action-orientated.

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      How much do I love you? <3

      Reply
  2. Paula

    I totally agree with the consistency part. As a reader of blogs and a viewer of video channels I feel like consistency keeps the audience loyal. I’ve seen many good bloggers and vloggers doing interesting and good content, but the timing is sometimes awful, like posting a video every day during a week and disappearing after a month. Or posting blog content three times per week in a month and disappearing the next two. It’s like saying you’re not reliable.
    I’ve been following your blog for probably 7 years already and you never disappointed me, thumbs up and thank you for your dedication!

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      That is such a sweet thing to say, and one of the nicest ones I have ever received. *sob*.. thank you!! And thank you for being such a loyal reader. That’s incredible. 7 years. My son isn’t even that old…

      I am trying very hard to be consistent, and present. It was hard to throw on Instagram on top of it, as it is MORE work I put on myself, but it seems to be balanced now. I am not sure if I can venture out into YouTube without losing it yet. Haha.. that’ll be in the works for 2021 maybe.

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