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Maternity / Pregnancy items and services I think are a waste of money

So this is my current list of stuff I find utterly useless and a waste of money for mothers.

As I mentioned once in the past, anything that has “baby” or “maternity” in its vicinity is likely to be jacked up by 300% in pricing; the same effect that the words “bride“, “groom” and “wedding” have on bakers and caterers.

Once you start shopping for baby things, you will think to yourself:

HOLY CRAP, WHAT A BUSINESS. We are all in the wrong industry!!

Seriously, it’s a scam.

I think it’s even MORE of a scam being that I am a minimalist to boot.

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Note: This list is partly tongue-in-cheek but I am totally serious about my answers.

PRE-NATAL YOGA

I am glad I didn’t buy any lessons but I paid $20 plus taxes to go to one class to see what I would learn. We spent 15 minutes waxing poetic about our pregnancies, and all I could think was: GET TO IT LADY, I am paying $0.33 a minute to listen to you and others yap about themselves!

Then when we got to the poses, as someone who already practices yoga, I found them far too easy and simple to be actual yoga. Felt more like stretching before a workout to me.

SOLUTION

Do regular yoga, just be careful to not squish the baby, lie on your belly, do exercises on your back with a heavy load in front, and to not over-exert or over-stretch yourself. Don’t waste your money on prenatal yoga unless you have never done yoga before, in which case you will need an instructor to teach you the poses.

(But honestly, why don’t you just walk half an hour a day?)

DIAPER BAGS

Okay, so they can be wiped down and cleaned, but it’s a bloody BAG.

If I’m really concerned with bodily fluids leaking into my purse, I’ll pack it into a ziploc bag before putting it in my purse.

Plus, diaper bags are ugly.

I don’t care how cute yours looks, it’s fugly because it’s a diaper bag. Even a Longchamp bag would be preferable to a diaper bag, in my opinion.

SOLUTION

I’m just going to use my current purses to hold baby stuff. Specifically, my Longchamp (lightweight, plastic, easy to wash and stylish), or my Samsara vegan leather bag (it’s plastic but looks like leather).

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SPECIFIC-MATERNITY WEAR

As I mentioned before, I think most maternity wear is pretty hideous.

SOLUTION

I only bought maternity jeans and a single maternity top that is maternity-specific for the bump. Otherwise, my entire wardrobe to take care of my growing bump will be pieces I can wear AFTER I give birth.

I paid about $300 for the jeans which is a LOT OF MONEY and $25 for the top, but that’s it for all the kids I will carry.

Some women go all out on a whole wardrobe…!

CRIB

This is not to everyone’s taste, but I hate the idea of furniture that will not have a purpose beyond its 6 months, even if it converts into a toddler bed.

(Those things never work out, or so parents tell me. They always end up buying a real bed for the kid.)

SOLUTION

Twin-sized 4-layer all-cotton Japanese futon as a baby bedΒ for the floor (this is how I slept as a baby and how I sleep now, no joke), and this will be the kids’ futon as they get older.

It’s how we sleep, so why not?

CHANGING TABLE

I know the changing table can be an actual dresser or table after, but I hate uni-purpose furniture (actually, furniture in general), so…

SOLUTION

Changing baby on a curved changing station that has straps to hold the squirmy child, but no specific “table” or dresser to be purchased.

ROCKING CHAIR

Are you kidding me? If I didn’t like rocking chairs before, I am certainly not buying one for the kid. Rocking chairs make me nauseous because of the rocking motion (who would have thought!?), so I am nixing this purchase in the bud.

SOLUTION

No rocking chair. I’ll rock myself with the baby in it. Or just carry the baby around.

NURSERY DECORATIONS

It’s cute, and I ooh-and-ahh over how cute everyone else’s nurseries are, but … I am not buying anything to decorate.

SOLUTION

Baby has me to look at.

EDUCATIONAL TOYS FOR NEWBORNS

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Baby Einstein? Baby Mozart? Sounds like a scam to me.

My mother didn’t have any of that, and we all turned out to be good students who could play an instrument easily. I don’t think babies have enough developed in their brains to really understand what it is they’re looking at.

I think all of these educational toys are a way for parents to self-soothe their guilty conscience about not being there for their kid 24/7 because they have to work and so on.

SOLUTION

I’m their teacher for piano for the start, and I’ll be helping them learn languages, etc. Good enough. Then they go to school and we help them if they need it.

NEWBORN-SPECIFIC STROLLERS

A serious waste of money.

It’s not that I don’t want to stroll my baby around, but those things are massive, and serve only one purpose: to handle newborns until month 3 – 6, then it’s totally useless.

Even before a mother told me about how useless they are at $200 a pop because she found it more annoying to try and move the baby from the carseat over to the stroller and back, I had a gut feeling that someone meant SPECIFICALLY for newborns would be a waste of money.

She told me just to carry the kid from the house to the car, and back, and to use a baby carrier instead of a stroller for a newborn. This, I already figured out but it was nice to have it reinforced.

SOLUTION

Strollers that start at 6 months, and car seats that go from newborn to age 4 1/2 (mandatory for safety).

Just walk into any baby store and you will be overwhelmed.

BABY CLOTHES THAT ARE FASHIONABLE

If you think I’m the type of mother who will pay $30 for a cute pair of pants that the kid will outgrow in 2 weeks, you’re off YOUR rocker.

SOLUTION

White and neutral-coloured clothing to go from newborn to 18 months, before they can start forming opinions and asking for things with colours (if at all).

Actually, no opinions allowed in this household for anyone under the age of 5 at all.

These are the only clothes they will own, and unless they want to start working to buy fashionable items for themselves, I will have to be dragged kicking and screaming to buy them anything I deem impractical especially since they grow like WEEDS.

DIAPER PAIL

This may or may not be your thing but I am cloth diapering, so I need a diaper pail to hold dirty diapers.

That said, if you are using disposables, you might need a system that locks your dirty diapers into a tight ball of odour-free bulbousness, but even so, I’m sure it’ll not smell like roses and candy.

“Diaper pails”, as they are specifically called, serve only one purpose — to hold dirty diapers, but the price tag say otherwise at $30 a pop.


YUCK.

SOLUTION

I am buying a garbage can with a lid for $10.

Honestly, doesn’t it do the same thing anyway, and only for $10 and made in Canada to boot?

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14 Comments

  1. Nearsa

    Some of this stuff I agree with, but this reads like a woman who has never had children. Some of these items are lifesavers:

    Rocking chairs: When it’s two in the morning and your baby still won’t go to sleep, you’ll be glad you have one.

    Maternity clothes: I couldn’t afford maternity clothes for my first pregnancy and had to wear
    my regular clothes, and I was uncomfortable for the last five months. I usually ended up sleeping naked and lounging around in my too-small underwear when at home. Without maternity clothes you’ll get to a point where you can’t wear anything but yoga pants and tank tops, and if you’re even a little fashion concious or care how you look it will drive you crazy.

    Strollers: I wasn’t going to buy a stroller and quickly learned that carrying a baby around everywhere sucks. So I just bought one of these tiny cheap strollers from walmart, and it was amazing. At least get a baby sling of you’re going to go that route.

    Diaper bag: I laughed at the carrying baby stuff in a purse comment, I tried that one too, it will last about a day. Babies go through a stage where they have poop blowouts in public. So you have to carry around baby wipes, several extra diapers, a clean pair of clothes, etc. You can fit all that in a purse if you try hard, but you won’t WANT to. Even my diaper bag felt too small most days.

    Educational toys: when you feel like a complete failure as a mother because you’re trying to work and run a household and you have no energy or motivation to play with your kid or help them learn anything, programs like mister Rogers or educational toys do a lot to take the pressure off. It doesn’t really matter if they actually work, it feels better on mom, that’s what matters.

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    1. Sherry of Save. Spend. Splurge.

      To say that this reads like someone who has never had children is insulting.

      I have a child, and just because I don’t agree or conform to your notions of what is right, doesn’t mean it is right or wrong.

      I welcome your comments, but keep that point in mind in the future please:

      Rocking chairs make me ill. I rock back in forth in one, even in a swing and I throw up. This is a personal preference, and I never had a rocking chair and everything was fine. He just got patted a lot on the bum.

      Maternity wear — people waste so much money on this like I did, when in the end a loose fitted dress or tunic or tee was fine. Unless you go to work pregnant, you don’t really need maternity wear, it’s a scam. Just buy a larger size in regular clothes.

      Strollers — We had a stroller but I always baby carried him when he was young, then we used the stroller on and off, so I agree with this, but I wouldn’t spend money on massive huge strollers to run with, or are too heavy to lift up by yourself to put in a car.

      Diaper bag — For me, another waste of money. I used my own purse and it worked out fine. I used my Longchamp Pliage actually, and it was huge. I had plenty of everything in there, including cloth diapers, so I don’t agree with this at all. People spend $100+ on a diaper bag that really is just a larger bag with more pockets. Buy something nice instead, and then enjoy the bag after.

      Educational toys — Mine could not have cared less about a whoozit or whatever the fancy new toys were. He wanted a cardboard box, and was happy with the iPad playing nursery rhymes, so I partly agree. My point is not to waste money on things you think will enrich their brain and pay a premium for it, not to not buy any toys at all.

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  2. Jessie's Money

    I LOVE my stroller. We splurged and got a UppaBaby Vista – excellent wheels for all kinds of terrain (we go for lots of walks), big storage basket underneath, easy to fold, easy to load, came with a bassinet which served as babies first bed and the main seat as well.

    We’re also cloth diapering, so easy. Have you decided which way your’e going? All in ones of some kind, pockets or prefold and covers? We did the latter. It costs less and it’s not that much more work at all.

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    1. Jane

      We have the same stroller and love it too! It’s been great for all of Ottawa’s weather and both on and off road. We’re on child number 3 and it’s still going strong, plus resale value is pretty high. (Can you see a theme? I buy almost everything second hand and then re-sell it after we’re done with it. In most cases as long as staining/wear/tear isn’t there I get back what I bought it for.)

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      1. sherry@savespendsplurge.com

        What a great idea — reselling. I am going to do that with Baby Bun’s stroller.

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    2. sherry@savespendsplurge.com

      I ended up with a very light, foldable stroller because I couldn’t justify a bassinet and all of that with how heavy it would be to carry it all.

      OH YES! I wrote a whole post on it for beginners and analyzed the cost. I went with Bummis and I did prefold & covers. I actually didn’t understand the point of one-of-a-kind or pockets. For the one of the kind, you would still need a waterproof cover, and for the second…. WHERE IS THE POO GOING TO GO!?

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  3. Domonique

    I really like this post.

    I definitely agree with what you wrote about cribs.
    I really wanted one because I thought I needed one, but neither of my children have slept in it (ages 3 and 1).
    Now that baby boy 3 is on the way, I am sure the same thing will happen.
    I don’t mind because I like the cuddles, but it’s taking up so much space.
    I cannot wait to sell it.

    I don’t agree with your opinion about maternity clothing, however.
    As someone who was fairly overweight before pregnancy (due to a back injury) I have enjoyed my more expensive, longer maternity tops.
    I’ve only purchased three tops at full-price, the rest were maternity but at a discounted price. Sometimes less than what I was paying for non-maternity tops.
    For me the extra coverage and not having my stretch-marked belly hanging out the bottom of regular shirts was worth the extra money.

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    1. sherry@savespendsplurge.com

      That is a good point about the maternity clothes. For me, I should have mentioned that I only wore stretchy midi dresses. I didn’t bother with separates and that’s why (probably) I didn’t bother with longer shirts that were ruched.

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  4. Jane

    My only thoughts are that white/light coloured baby clothing are my anathema as they get stained in two seconds flat (hello berries…or spit up…or pooplosions…or any single thing a baby does in a given day!) and are therefore terrible for re-sale. Dark coloured clothing is where it’s at!!

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    1. sherry@savespendsplurge.com

      OOO what a good point. When he was a baby though, he looked so sweet in white.. Still does. πŸ™‚

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  5. Ramona

    1. I don’t do yoga, didn’t do prenatal yoga. Wanted as c-section, so I didn’t have to be ‘fit’ for birth (I’ve been pretty ‘sportsy’ all my life, so I was in top shape anyway.

    2.diaper bags / pail – we use disposable diapers, I just throw them away.

    3. baby bed – we got one from our friends. Nadia slept in it for exactly 3 months and then realized it’s better with mommy. She’s sleeping in our bed, between us. And I have a huge bed (it can be used till she’s around 6-7) to collect dust.

    4. maternity clothing – got 3 pants. Wore my tees and husband’s. tees. I work from home, so I didn’t need to much clothing, not to mention I didn’t get too big either. And lost the baby weight within weeks after the baby was born.

    5. stroller – we got a Peg Perego stroller. She HATED it for months. Used it for 3-4 months, then she realized it’s more fun to walk. It was great for few occasions (travel / restaurants etc.), so I don’t regret buying it.

    6. we don’t have decorations, we didn’t have educational toys and I clearly don’t have a changing table. We did get a special mattress (same friends who gave us the bed) and I placed it on top of our washing machine. That’s in our bathroom and I can easily change clothing and wash her.

    I’d add: wet nappies. We bought many like crazy and then I came to the right conclusion that we actually have running water at home. So I washed her butt every time we changed diapers πŸ˜€

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    1. sherry@savespendsplurge.com

      1. I LOVE yoga but prenatal yoga was a no go. A lot of breathing. Useless. Just drug me.

      2. Diaper bags / Pail, you throw them away each time you change her? Or you keep them in a pail?

      3. Yeah mine sleeps in our bed now too πŸ™‚ We have two futons together to sleep on.

      4. I was in muumuus the entire time.. useless to have purchased overpriced, ugly mat clothes in my situation. I was way more comfortable in my bodycon dresses

      5. Mine likes to walk now, hates the stroller for long periods of time.

      6. OH YES! We use a water bottle to wet his butt and wipe him down with reusable wipes.

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  6. NZ Muse

    How ’bout those cuddly pillows for preggo ladies?

    I sit between two pregnant women at work – their tales of pregnancy yoga and aquarobics (really chilled and complete with nap time) crack me up.

    Are baby capsules common where you are?

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    1. sherry@savespendsplurge.com

      Oh those pillows didn’t even fit around me. I felt better without it, and I just put another pillow between my legs and could adjust it. The pregnant pillows are not the right shape…

      What are baby capsules? *imagining a space baby*

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