Bear with me here.
I know it sounds like I am going off the grid, but as a young parent, I remember being distinctly asked if I wanted to circumcise my son.
I was horrified when I heard it, truth be told. To tell me you’re going to cut a little tiny baby’s natural-born skin off for… what exactly … was not something I could really put my heart behind.
Then they wanted to charge me money for it?
NO. THANK. YOU.
After I made my own personal decision with my partner, I started talking to some other parents, and other mothers mostly, said things like:
- Oh it just doesn’t look as good if it isn’t cut
- It’s cleaner, really..
- That’s just how it should be done
….and I clamped my mouth shut because all I could think was: Is this not the definition of genital mutilation?
I mean, I am truly 100% against female genital mutilation – there is NO basis for this to ever happen, and it is not “cleaner” either – and I know plenty of other people who are equally as against it as I am.
It sounds like the same thing to me honestly — the reasons that some mothers do it to their little girls in other countries, are exactly the same ones I am hearing for why it is done to little boys here.
But for some reason, when it comes to little boys, we have a completely opposite reaction.
Even for non-religious reasons (yes I know the Jewish have this as part of a ceremony), we as a society, tend to lean towards doing this to our boys as a normal surgical procedure and then condone it when it is done to little girls.
If my son in the future, wanted to do this, that is up to him to decide. I know some adult men who did this as they got older, but honestly, it was just societal / peer pressure that they did so, so that they wouldn’t feel “different” in the bedroom.
I am not the one to decide if he should or should not get it done, and my stance was: It is his body and I cannot make that decision for him.