So.. I am apparently on the cusp of Millennnial-ism. People give me the side-eye when I say this but when I tell them how old I am, they Google it, and then agree with me.
The reason why they can’t believe it, is because there is a stereotype going out around there about how this generation is lazy, unmotivated and entitled.
I AM HERE TO TELL YOU THIS IS NOT TRUE.
..and I hate hearing that because we are not all the same.
Look at me!
I am not lazy, unmotivated or entitled.. I don’t and never expected at work, to be handed anything, and when I wanted to learn something or saw an opportunity, you could not stop me from learning it.
I don’t ask for raises when I don’t think I’ve deserved them.
Take for instance, the specialty I have now — you know how I learned it?
Because I saw that not many people had that skill, and had an intutition it could be a real unique selling point if someone were to hire me over someone else.
Whenever I met someone who did this speciality in any regard, I glommed on them like a koala cub and basically very politely hassled them with never-ending questions about why, how, who, when and anything under the sun.
I offered to do grunt work for them in this area.
I spent nights on this, I researched and read up on it, I tried things out on my own to see if I understood the concepts.
I made myself useful, all the while peppering them with questions and absorbing as much as possible to understand what I could.
Secondly, I am (at work) being asked to help train someone on this exact specialty.
A problem? Not really.
I don’t see how someone can learn what I have learned over 10 years (still learning!), in 2 months but I digress.
This woman, is at least 15 years my senior, and claims to be motivated (at least in all of the team meetings we are having when she speaks up and says she is VERY interested in learning how it is done).
…and yet, her actions speak louder than her words.
She is LAZY AF…
I gave her ONE TASK to do. A simple one that I did when I was learning, and she couldn’t even do it.
I had to go through and redo what she did, clean it up, organize it properly and finish what I asked her to do.
Not only that, I gave her SIMPLE tasks she should be able to handle on her own (specialty or not), and she didn’t even do them right.
Now, is it a lack of knowledge? …. Maybe. If so, then speak up! SAY SOMETHING.
Just say to me:
“Hey Sherry? Could you walk me through how this part works? I’m not very familiar with it.”
Simple. Easy. Honest.
I would have spent time working with her.
…instead of saying:
“Sure, I will do it.” (LIES.)
…only to have me come back to you, constantly ask if you are done, and then when I go to run my analysis, I see that you missed 15% of what you should have entered because my calculations all came out #%*@$)@$.
She doesn’t take any action on her own..
Want to learn something and need the time? BOOK ME.
In a recent meeting that riled me up and prompted this post, she says in front of an entire room with managers:
“Oh I have learned NOTHING so far. It has been a month and I am not even autonomous, and I don’t know ANYTHING because NO ONE is sitting down and helping me.”
She basically threw me under the bus because I am supposed to be the one helping her.
And you know what?
I kept my mouth shut because I am a professional, and I don’t give AF because training her is not my mandate and I don’t really want to.
Especially now after this had happened. I am even LESS inclined to help her.
All I could think was that I created, and provided her with an 80-page guide on my specialty (above and beyond what most people would do, as I have verified this with other employees to make sure I am not off base here and doing my job), AND I ALSO have examples for her (real life ones) she can follow and reverse engineer the formulations of.
THIS is what I would have done.
I would have spent all my free time teaching myself, instead of whining and complaining about how no one is spoon feeding you this information and as a result, you are blaming me, the “teacher” rather than you the student not taking any action.
This two-faced #%(*)% says to me: “Can I help“ (probably prompted by a manager), and when I (stupidly) give her tasks to help me, she takes weeks to complete them when I needed it yesterday.
WHAT IS THE POINT OF ASKING TO HELP if you are not going to !?
I can’t even trust her with basic stuff to help me, and that makes me even less inclined to help her.
You have to chase her for basic tasks
I have to chase her. I can’t believe I have to chase her for these things, but a great example is I put her on a task of managing a relationship with a big client.
I ask her: Hey, could you take this over? Here’s the overview, here are my previous email exchanges, go.
She spends 2 weeks, doing JACK SQUAT, only to have my Director ask ME for an update (to which I redirected him to her), and he emails her for the next month, weekly, to ask for an update.
You would think with such a hint you would proactively give an update, follow up and make sure it is covered without any more prompting.
I had to sit with her, craft out the email, and tell her: you contact this guy, this person, ask them this, lay out a plan for this, tell them the deadline is this….
…. It was all in my emails and not related to any knowledge per se, but just basic self-management and organization.
I want everyone to know that being lazy and a terrible back-stabber at work is not limited to being a Millennial. Happens in all age groups.
If you want to succeed at work, and care about something, you will note three things in life:
1. EVERYTHING you get is training.
Nothing is beneath you. Grunt tasks, are how you learn how difficult something is.
2. You have to take charge of your own learning.
No one (especially me) is going to chase you to teach you. You handle that part on your own and come to me if you have questions.
3. You need to stop whining.
Shut up, stop whining to managers about how you are not learning, because it makes you look petty and stupid even if you think you’re throwing me under the bus and covering your @ss.
You really aren’t.
Now people are actually coming up to me, horrified that she said that because they know that I was the one who was meant to be her teacher, but have been overbooked on three projects to the point where if I spend time to train her, something doesn’t get done.
We are not in leisurely, chill out mode here. This is a crunch time for a lot of projects this year, and frankly, I’m over it.