WHAT I READ
PRIMATES OF PARK AVENUE
[MANHATTAN / NYC /ANTHROPOLOGY / STYLE / MOMMY WARS / PARENTING / FUNNY ]
I really loved this book. It straddles the fine line between being too kitschy and yet still holds a lot of meaty, interesting pieces to chew on long after you’ve read its pages.
A glimpse into the life of a perfectly poised, coiffed, Manhattan Mommy is .. both scary and enviable. It made me glad I had my life, let’s put it that way. I don’t like pressure, fighting and competition amongst other women (what’s the point)? I’m more one of those happy-go-lucky, smiley, yet cynical and realist Mommies everyone secretly hates, I’m sure.
I’m also very interested in the points that she made about how those women fight so hard to prove how good they are as mothers, wives and women, and perhaps it all stems from an insecurity of not making their own money and therefore unable to keep up that lifestyle if they divorced their hedge fund / uber rich husbands (some philanderers, some not.)
It was not holier-than-thou in its tone, nor was it too self-effacing. Hard to describe, just read it. Highly recommended.
Also, she names a lot of brands and things that I (for better or worse), instantly recognized.
Celine Trapeze bag, Chanel Boy Bag, Birkin .. and others, I had to Google like “WTF are Pomellato stacking rings?”
Great read, full of interesting points that I plan on discussing on this blog in the near future when I can wrap my brain around it.
I KNOW HOW SHE DOES IT
[ TIME MANAGEMENT / WOMEN / CAREER ]
It’s all about working mothers, having it all — the family, AND the career.
To be honest, I didn’t really like the book. First of all, it puts the onus on the mother to “manage her time” because she has to balance her work and family life, but men, get off the hook scot-free.
What kind of hogwash is that?!?
So fathers have no responsibility except to their careers? Why are we not also saying: Hey, you should be talking to the partner in your life to see if he can take on half of the work load?
It’s another story if you’re a single mother (kudos to you!) but if you are in a partnership, that means they take half of the workload.
Anyway, I don’t like how the focus is on women managing their lives so that they are able to “have it all”.
That said, there was a glimmer of interesting hope in this book, and it was to track your time for one week (168 hours) to see where your time went — home, family, career, traveling, etc.. and you can see where you spend your time the most, is where you prioritize your time the most.
This is the same philosophy I have with where you spend most of your money, is where you have put the biggest priority on in your life. I do this in every single one of my budget roundups.
I prefer the tone of a book like Getting to 50/50, where it puts EQUAL responsibility on EACH parent to handle the family chores, household tasks and career trajectories.
I DON’T KNOW HOW SHE DOES IT [CHICKLIT / CAREER / WOMEN]
This is a GREAT book. I don’t know if I can really classify it only as chicklit, because it is so much more than that. It’s real.
It’s all painfully true that fathers are seen as being heroic & wonderful when they take care of their children but mothers are seen as liabilities who are bringing their companies down when they try to parent and juggle a career.
I have so many thoughts going through my head about this book, it has brought up a ton of discussion points for me and was very enjoyable to read, to boot.
It lacked a little in the general feel-good nature of chicklit that Sophie Kinsella does much better, but it was a great read that was hard to put down.
All working mothers would greatly appreciate reading this book particularly with its highlighted moments of charm of wit and humour.
(It’s VERY British.)
WHAT I BOUGHT
I gave myself a free spending budget of $1000 to do with what I wished this month for shopping.
…and I really made the most of it. I mean, REALLY.
I bought a lot. I mean, A LOT.
We’re talking thousands of dollars. $_$ so be prepared to .. keel over with shopping shock.
Don’t say I didn’t warn you.
Let’s start with all the clothing and accessories…
ABC NECKLACE – $60
Love this necklace. I’m into typography this month and the letters in a necklace are just SO PRETTY.
GRAMMAR POLICE T-SHIRT – $34
Couldn’t resist. This is FINALLY a t-shirt I can wear that is graphic and so very.. ME.
CITY SKYLINE NECKLACES – $200
I love city skylines. Love them. Love necklaces in them too, and rings and jewellery.
This one is Manhattan.
And this one is London, one of my favourite cities in the world.
SILVER FAN NECKLACE – $90
I love Sheena’s work, and I bought this silver fan necklace. It’s gorgeous, delicate and so perfect!
A NEW DIAPER BAG (LOL) – $200
OK so I’m being facetious. I call this a diaper bag, but really, I just wanted a waxed canvas cotton tote to use. I love all the pockets (one in front, two in the back), and the ZIPPERED compartment with inner compartments. Oh, and did I mention that my original diaper bag (the Longchamp Pliage) is starting to get holes on the bottom because I am using it so much? Yes. Maybe this will be sturdier. Nevertheless, my partner took back HIS Longchamp Pliage for himself and I need a new diaper bag, so this is it.
AG STILT JEANS IN BROOKS – $230
Belle from CapHill Style said that her favourite jeans were AG jeans, the Farrah fit, to be more precise… and I really wanted a pair of dark rinse skinny jeans so I thought I’d give these a shot. O.M.G. They are SO comfortable, soft and wonderful.
I tried on the much darker rinse wash but it was really stiff and… frankly, uncomfortable. I wasn’t going to shell out $200-ish dollars for stiff jeans no matter how cute they are. So I went with a lighter wash so that it would be super soft and comfortable, and I couldn’t be happier. Also, small relief but I also got $10 off.
TOP SHOP BLUE COLLARED SHIRT – $55
TAMAMIKO SILK BAGS – $100
TED & MAG SILVER LACE RINGS – $150
NICE THINGS BY PALOMA S – WIDE LEG COMFORTABLE TENCEL PANTS – $100
These are comfortable, loose, and very .. NOT ME actually. I don’t own a single wide-legged pant and this is a real departure for me. This looks very pajam-y, and I hate the way they’ve styled it, so we’ll see how I work this into my wardrobe. Anyway, POCKETS! COMFORTABLE! Loose! ON SALE! Win win win win.
EBERJEY ANIKA RETRO BRALETTE SET – $135
My newest addition to my lingerie cabinet. I never buy anything pretty, seriously. This is one area where I think: meh. I am not interested in updating anything. It’s just underwear, it isn’t as appealing to me.
But this Anika set was SO PRETTY, I saw it in a store and thought it was too beautiful to pass up, so I bought the set.
And now for the big kahuna…
JOHN MASTERS ORGANICS FRAGRANCE FREE SHAMPOO
Just trying this one out. I love the zinc and vanilla version but this is all they had on Well.ca for now.
A MACBOOK PRO 15″ RETINA LAPTOP & ACCESSORIES – $5500
This is the laptop, the case, the thunderbolt ethernet adapter, the keyboard cover and the screen protector (it’s a little too shiny).
But my Macbook 17″ died and I got scared that I would have absolutely NO BACKUP whatsoever to work on, so I thought I’d buy a lighter, smaller laptop as a backup of sorts.
Long story short, I love Macs. They last a long time, and aside from my scare with the screen on my 17″ which they fixed FOR FREE, these things last a very, VERY long time.
I also installed VM Fusionware on this laptop so I have the Microsoft operating system as well and will never, EVER buy another PC again.
And that’s it. For this month.